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    I just had my shower at 32w quite close to my house - being busy for so long all day as well as being the centre of attention was completely exhausting.
    Last week I got a train for 2.5 hrs and it hurt my back, tailbone and sciatic so badly I was crying.
    You definitely need to be at your place I think. Unfortunately, gran might just have to wait to see you after the birth.
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    I'd definitely put my foot down and tell her it needs to be much closer for you. You're the reason why there is even a baby shower in the first place!

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    Thanks girls . I sent mum a message saying thank you for the thought but I don't think I could travel that far. She says she's going to think of other alternatives so hopefully they've more doable. I do want a shower so I can see everyone but just thinking of having to travel that far and having other people miss out to be to other's convenience was really upsetting me.


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    How does she expect you to get your presents home, on the train with you? I remember the amount I got with my DS & they would have had trouble fitting in my car let alone carrying them anywhere

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    IMO 36 weeks is too late for a shower (but I should add I had DD at 37+1 ).

    You want some time after the shower to shop (at a leisurely waddle) and fill the gaps of things you didn't get yet, to assemble gifts and get the right size batteries, to pre-wash the clothes... oh, and you know, fit in time to study for those exams somewhere too!

    So even if the location changes still try to get the date moved. If there's 1 person who is away etc that she is delaying it for you will just need to organise a catch up with that person separately.

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    I wouldn't be doing it. Just for the fact all that wobbling and travelling could put you into labour!

    If gran can't come like other people have said you can either meet her soonish, or wait until the baby is born.

    It is about you, not her. As harsh as that sounds at the end of the day it is what it is.

    Would you be comfortable travelling that far now? if so could you have an early baby shower? I know plenty who had them at 5-6months.

    that close to birth (and it could be closer than you think) you should be resting, not stressed, conserving energy and just chilling in the lead up to birth.

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    She is arranging around her (she lives 8 hours from me and will be at her sisters at that time and not earlier) unless I have the shower next month? I could probably do the travel next month I might suggest that.
    I think I'm expected to leave the presents at Aunty's until I can go down in a car (Id get dad to drive me as I hate driving that particular trip).


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    Yes I woud say something. Considering it's a shower for you then it should be organised so that it is easiest for you. If that means some people can't attend then so be it.

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    Honestly I'm 36 weeks now and if someone expected me to sit on a train for 4 hours I'd tell them to take a running jump. The pain would SO not be worth it, not to mention the physical drain it would be.

    I think you've done the right thing. A polite "Thanks but no thanks" is probably best in this case. I think when you haven't had a bub for a while you tend to forget how tiring it is to be pregnant not to mention uncomfortable and painful if you're far enough in.

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    I sat in a car for 10 hours when I was 8 months pregnant. And I didn't find it hard. Everyone's different though. You may find the train ride hard, you may find it easy.

    I would probably say no though as:
    1) As a matter of principal: the shower is for you, it should be about what is most convenient for you not your mother.
    2) You probably won't know whether or not you're going to be able to travel until the time comes. And that Kate awareness is not really good for an event that requires planning in advance.

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