I have had 2 stillbirths, and my preschooler DD was very much involved in the pregnancy, and then involved in grieving as a family for her little sister. When she is asked about her family she states she has a big brother and little sister, but they died and went to heaven. We have told her if she wants to talk about them it's ok, and if she doesn't its ok too.
So my concern is, I don't want her to upset other people with what is seen as a 'religious statement' of they went to heaven. How would you feel if your 4yr old came home and said their friend has a brother and sister in heaven?