OP I'm sorry but your DH is an absolute pig. The way he is speaking to you with such disrespect is the thing that screams LEAVE to me.
Your DH works what 38 hours a week?
You work 16 our of the home?
So after you work your 22 hours being a SAHM, just stop. Don't do anything. Don't clean/cook/look after the kids, don't work weekends. If that's your "job" then you only need to be fulfilling your 38 hours a week. God it's going to cost you guys a fortune to hire someone to do the other 130 hours a week.