So my DS1 started prep this year. His teacher has mentioned to me that they did a prep screener test and out of the 100+ preppies he's scored the highest in the test. He's a late April born so also one of the youngest in his cohort. He turns 5 next month. In fact she's been in early childhood for 20+ years and is completely blown away by his ability.
Now I've always known he was clever but even though I'm a primary teacher myself I've never done any standardised testing on him. His work samples are being used as 'A' standard during moderation with staff and he grasps things very quickly. I've known he's a fast learner and I'm often amazed by his thought processes. But it's now been mentioned to me just how high he is in ability. I feel a bit careless in that he has this great natural ability but I've never really honed in on it. I didn't want to be a 'teacher' to him at home so I only ever guided him at his own interest. Like at two he was asking about speed signs on the side of the road and quickly grasped his 'ty' numbers. He has handled money a bit so understands how many cents make a dollar and what coins are needed and just loves time so since he was two has been telling the time. This has all been incidental learning. I've never made it a mission to give him a lesson as such.
My concern now is that both being gifted and talented and having ASD tendencies has now also been mentioned. I feel a bit lost as I'm a person who often plays a role in starting the process with having children ascertained. I just can't see it in my son. He definitely has social immaturity issues but so many of the indicators just aren't even remotely there. He can deal with change of routine, gives eye contact, has never lined things up to any obvious degree,etc. He had an issue with throwing sand but he has since stopped (it was suggested this was a sensory thing). He definitely has always had a thing with throwing sand (he calls them sand fireworks) and jumping in puddles or any dirty playful thing really he just loves.
I'm not even sure what the point to this thread is. Just I'm worried that either I'm not seeing what's going on with some kind of mummy goggles on and he really is showing more signs - or because of his intelligence and social/behavioral (he can be very oppositional) issues they are looking for further things.
I should note that ASD has only been mentioned in passing and not as a huge concern but I'm an overanaliser so of course it has me over thinking it all.
It's times like this I wish I wasn't a single mother. Just to have a good in depth conversation with someone else who held the same concern for my child.
Please feel free to - I dunno ... Add or something :/