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    Default How do you say no to people when you don't want them to babysit?

    Bub is still a few months away but I've had a few people say things like "Oh when you want to go to the football/out for dinner/etc etc I can babysit for you!" Which is fine, because its nice of people to offer. If its someone who I would never in a million years allow to babysit my child I tend to just do the smile and nod (or in the case of facebook, conveniently not see their comment lol) and not really give an answer.
    But...some people have been really persistent. They keep saying it over and over again, and one particular person has even taken to having other people tell me what a good babysitter she would be (even though she really isn't, and I've seen it for myself).
    I imagine its going to be much harder to say no when the baby is actually here and as some of them are family, it will be even harder when they realise that other family members are allowed to babysit.
    So what do you do? I don't want to tell them the reasons why I say no because I don't want to start a big family drama and I don't want anyone getting upset if they never get to babysit, but I simply will not leave my child with someone I don't trust.

    How do others get around this issue?

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    I would say once bub is born you will struggle to find babysitters. Everyone loves to offer, but very few people actually put the offer into practice. Majority of mums don't want to leave their baby anyway....just do what you are doing...nod and smile

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    Haha I find most people wouldn't cope with someone else's newborn!

    Plus I don't know about everyone else but me going out to the footy / drinks / dinner with friends etc was the LAST thing I wanted to do after the birth of my DS! All you want to do is sleep and spend time with your family.

    I would either say 'thanks but we won't be doing much after the birth of our baby, we will be spending time as a family and bonding' or if your are planning to breastfeed you could use that as an excuse

    I doubt most people would really follow through with the offer unless they were family.

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    In my experience with both my kids, I had TONNES of babysitting offers when I was still pregnant... They dropped off the earth after they were born lol!!

    A lot of offers are just for show and never eventuate. I wouldnt stress too much.

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    Just don't ask them ! Lol simple
    If I need a baby sitter I don't mention it to anyone but the person I'm asking to baby sit which is usually my mum or MIL.

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    Don't stress! We had lots of offers when pregnant but not many when we actually had the baby . It's not like they'll show up at your house and force you out the door (I hope - well, we did that when my niece was a week old, but we forced my BIL and SIL to have a few hours sleep in the next room, but I wouldn't expect many people to do that!).

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    I just laugh & say "I'll take you up on that offer." I never let them babysit but it shuts them up for a while. When they say it again, I just smile & agree. They'll eventually get the hint.
    I once had a girl send me a message every day telling me she'd love to babysit. I'd always reply with "no problem. Maybe one day."
    At the end of the day they can't force you to leave baby with them.

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    Just carry on with the nodding and smiling. Like the others, I'd be surprised if they insist once bub is here. I have people offering to help me with things all the time, but it NEVER happens. Otherwise, just say how lovely the offer is but your mum/MIL/whoever has insisted it's their turn, and maybe next time...

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    Will you be breast feeding ? I have found it the perfect excuse, ecspecially when demand feeding , cause you just "don't know when they will feed next " so you need to be there.

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