So, I read with envy posts about what to do WHEN your child tantrums! LOL! My 2 3/4 yo DD is, quite literally, a walking tantrum. I would say 90% of her waking time is spent screaming, whining, grumpy, saying no, refusing to do what I say. I have little rays of sunshine about 10% of the time. I try ignoring or telling her that I cannot understand her and will listen to her when she uses a nice voice. The fact that she tantrums 90% of the time suggests that this tactic isn't working. Every now and then I lose my cool (hey, you put up with it 8 hours a day - LOL again!) and yell but of course that only escalates the situation.
When I offer her a cuddle, she wants to be picked up whilst I am standing up which I can't do due to a bad back (I've explained that to her several times but I don't really think she gets it and she is in that typical 2 year old stage where her needs overrides everyone elses).
The question I would ask is should I be seeking professional help? I'm told that this could last until she is 4 and quite frankly I can't cope with another year and a bit of this! Or do I just have to suck it up?