I suspect the main reason the Op's partner isn't happy with her leaving for a few days is he's losing his baby sitter He might actually have to parent his own kids now *shock horror*
Can I recommend you stay away for at least a week or even better stay away for 2? No phone contact either. The connection of a woman to a man is as much scientific as it is emotional (which yes is also based on chemicals but bear with me). The human body works on multiple levels of chemical reactions. It takes a minimum of 2 weeks for the brain to stop producing the serotonin that will make you feel as though you 'love' this man and need this man in your life, our bodies get addicted to this like caffeine. Everytime for example, you make contact with an old flame and get that flutter of 'old feelings' rushing back, it's not love, it's serotonin. It takes time to breakthrough the cycle and especially being pregnant is going to be harder with the hormones whizzing around the body. A very confusing time for you, I hope that you are kind to yourself and seek the support you need to have a life you deserve. Big hugs to you!
Just wanted to wish you all the best and second the PP that said no contact at all for at least two weeks. You need a proper break from this man to collect your thoughts and self esteem.
All the best xx
I woke up this morning ready to pack and head home but I didn't (claps for me!!) and I think it's mainly because I am listening to you all. I'm trying to be logical.
What can you do to stay busy and boost your own happiness (and self esteem) on your own? Can you walk, swim, get out into nature, or maybe go shopping, or something - anything that'll make YOU happy? Or just drive?
Whereabouts are you staying?
Try and not think about how long in total you need to stay away. When the kids were really little and DH would have to go away for a long stretch and I'd worry how I'd cope. Rather than worrying about the length of time I was on my own I'd tell myself each day I just have to get through the day in front of me. And it didn't seem to hard. Before I knew it a week had passed. Then the next.
Try and keep really busy and occupied. That helps too.
This is really too important.
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