Oh dear, you have been with him since you were 15. There is so much you have to experience so much happiness out there for you. I feel really bad for you. I usually advocate to work things out but it sounds like he knows your in experienced and in love and he thinks he can treat you any way he wants. Personally I would leave. Emotional abuse is the worse I lived with a total **** for 9 years and was miserable she was a terrible person but I always thought it was me who was the bad one, I mean wasnt it my fault because there was a load of laundry left even though I did 5 that day? Surely I was the one in the wrong if dinner wasnt done the minute she walked in the door. I began to believe the things she said about me and it was bad dont stick around it will consume you. I would leave and if you want to work it out work it out from afar, get counseling together and work it out without living with him.
He doesn't sound like someone worth staying for at all...
I think you need to leave Hun. Go to your family. You deserve better the this man and so does your unborn child.
I think I'm going to get blasted for saying this....but when you got together he was 25, you 15? I will never understand what sort of grown man wants to have a relationship with a child. It would also have been illegal.
You really need to distance yourself. Take care of yourself and your baby. Good luck x
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OP, where are your parents in all of this? If you have even a half decent relationship with your mum, you need to call her and tell her what's going on. If I were in your shoes that's what I would do and I'm 31.
Ok so this is what you have told us..
You are 18 and caring for his 3 kids more than he does
He cheated on you then emotionally blackmailed you into staying by telling you that you couldn't return if you left
He's verbally abusive to you
He hangs out with someone who has made some really inappropriate comments about you and in essence condones it by still having him there
He's removed all affection and intimacy since you got pg
If you had a daughter and she wrote those things about her relationship, what would you tell her?
OP there has been some terrific advice on this thread, get away somewhere quiet and take it on board...
There are so many red flags in your post I could cry.
Please call your mum or somebody sensible that you trust and have a good think about what sort of environment you need for your bubby and for yourself.
If I teach my daughter anything it's to know that she is worthy of love and respect at all times - I repeat - at all times!!! I would rip a new one to any bloke that was treating her like he is treating you.
Call your mum, pack your bags and concentrate on a good peaceful life for you and bub.
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