Sorry, this will be a bit rambly... We took DS (21 weeks) to a CYH Clinic to get some strategies for settling cos at the moment I usually just feed him to sleep and am in desperate need of more sleep overnight. We got into this habit because he was very colicky when he was tiny, and the nurse suggested that letting him suck on something would help him pass gas and ease his discomfort. He wouldn't take a dummy or bottle, so bf it was. He only wakes up twice between midnight and six for a quick feed and falls back to sleep very easily.
Well, the nurse took one look at him and said 'what have you got in those breasts, double cream?' which put me offside straight away. Then she talked at us with a spiel she's obviously got memorised without asking anything about our situation. Every now and then she'd pause and scream 'who's the boss?' to which we were meant to cry out 'we are!' It was surreal.
Anyway, she said at CYH they don't advocate controlled crying, but suggested we start 'comfort crying' and quickly said 'you know shh pat, for 60 minutes then 40, then 20, then 10' and didn't go into any more detail.
I was hoping for more suggestions, because this sounds like moving to more of a routine and I'm kind of philosophically on the feed on demand end of the spectrum. I've totally lost confidence in my choices now, because she made me feel like I've created a fatty fat fat baby who is going to die if I don't stop feeding him.
I am confused because at home I did a search for 'comfort crying' and it seemed to come up as another name for CIO and controlled crying. Is that right? Then I looked up 'shh pat' and there was no mention anywhere of doing it for 60 minutes. Does anyone know what she can have been talking about?