What does everyone think of my mum?
Background..My mum and dad were married and had myself and my sister who is two years younger than myself. My parents split up when I was 6 and I went to live with my dad, my sister stayed with mum. During that time she quickly formed a relationship with a much younger man and it wasn't happy, they both drank heavily and my sister was practically bought up in pubs....I went back to live with her at 16 and it was much the same story..
They weren't particularly interested in us, for example we moved a few suburbs away because we moved into state housing but wanted to still attend the same school. We had to catch three buses there and back, they never picked us up. No interest in our schooling either.
Anyway fast forward a bit, my sister and husband live interstate from where my mum lives. They lived here for a couple of years but went back a couple of years ago because apparently mum never made an effort to visit her. My mum chooses not to drive and tells people she can't be bothered catching buses. I live two suburbs away and the only time she comes to my place is if I invite her to dinner and go and pick up and drop off. Otherwise I have to go and see her. Otherwise I don't see her. She feels no guilt about this at all. She has no friends , she doesn't want any. She did have but she makes no effort and then they get sick of it and leave. She doesn't visit brothers and sisters , she sees one brother but that's because he makes the effort. She does go and see her mum in a nursing home but her brother drives her.
Anyway fast forward to know. My sister whi is 40 has a hubby and one 5 year old. She recently had her fourth miscarriage on the anniversary of her meeting her hubby. Understandably she is devastated,,,anyway she wants mum to go over there. Mum could fly over there, she is now retired. But she doesn't like to go over and stay with them ,not exactly sure why and gives excuses such as her cat ( someone could feed the cat for her) . There have been dramas with them before over this. It makes me quite depressed that my mother is so crap at being a mother. My sister is sad that she is practically begging her to come over and she won't. She told my sister, I don't want to be a mother sometimes and my sister says well don't be and hung up.
Mum is always angry at something or someone, is very abrasive and I feel like she is very controlling with her anger. She also smokes a lot of pot , she's in her 60s. I know , pretty immature right?
Now my mum has found out that my sister has told me about the fight and I may be gng interstate , I offered too. Mum was annoyed at that..
I really feel like just getting rid of my mum from my life. Life with her is such a roller coaster...