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    Default Gender surprise being spoiled?

    I had my 20 week scan on the weekend and we told the sonographer we definitely did not want to find out the sex of the baby. However after we left the clinic, hubby informed me that the woman kept saying "he" and "his" when referring to bone length, movements etc. I didn't notice because i was too busy paying attention to other details, otherwise i would have called her on it. So my question is, do you think she unprofessionally "spilled the beans", or do sonographers naturally use "he or she" to make it more personal than saying "it"? Has this happened to you?

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    I have been told by sonographers before that they deliberately skip over that area when gender identification hasn't been requested, to reduce the chance of them finding out and accidentally giving it away.

    I am not a sonographer, but would not be comfortable saying "it". I would probably be inclined to use "the" instead.

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    Maybe she was deliberately trying to throw you off so that it would be an even bigger surprise??!

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    Both times I had my 20 week scan the sonographes told me up front that they refer to all babies as "him" so not to take any notice of it and if we specifically wanted to know the gender we should ask. Both babies were girls by the way.

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    Yeah that's unprofessional IMO. Don't play mind games - say it rather than he/she

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    My sonographer was saying he and it was a girl

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    I've had a sonographer tell me that she always says 'he' regardless of sex.

    Also, this pregnancy my OB continually referred to 'he' whenever he did scans. We did find out the sex, and it's a girl

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    Quote Originally Posted by GirlsRock View Post
    Both times I had my 20 week scan the sonographes told me up front that they refer to all babies as "him" so not to take any notice of it and if we specifically wanted to know the gender we should ask. Both babies were girls by the way.
    Yep this

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    My sonographer said 'don't buy blue' when we said we didn't want to find out. I was sure I was having a girl so after this comment and my own crappy 'gut' feeling I was sooooo surprised. And really pi$$ed off when we left feeling like my surprise had been ruined. Very unnecessary.

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    Quote Originally Posted by babyla View Post
    My sonographer said 'don't buy blue' when we said we didn't want to find out. I was sure I was having a girl so after this comment and my own crappy 'gut' feeling I was sooooo surprised. And really pi$$ed off when we left feeling like my surprise had been ruined. Very unnecessary.
    What a bish!!!


 

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