Its a difficult case. The baby has quite severe medical issues and im not entirely sure who is in the right.
Holy moly, how heart breaking.
At the end of the day, I believe in bodily autonomy and I don't believe anyone should be forced into an unwanted abortion.
I think it's something that should have been discussed before entering the agreement. I don't think it's rocket science to think of discussing what would happen if the baby had abnormalities such as this, or Down syndrome etc.
They should have been more specific about what constitutes abnormalities. They should have been more specific about at what gestation they'd go up to.
'Abnormalities' is subjective. For some people, cleft palate is worthy of termination. For others, nothing is worthy of it.
Yeah they should have, hindsight is 20/20, but that baby had a long list of problems. Surely everyone would agree that combined would constitute for 'severe abnormalities'.
Oh sorry I missed that.
Gees, this is why I see all sorts of things wrong with commercial surrogacy. It's obvious the surrogate only did it for the $2200 per month.
I think the parents were well within their rights to want to sue her. She agreed she would abort in this sort of case, then backed out. Of course she had no money so suing her wouldn't do any good. I really feel for the biological parents.
Yes the baby hardly 'only' had a cleft palate. I think any professional would agree this baby had severe abnormalities. It's impossible to list every possible abnormality a baby could have.
I don't know about you, but I've signed things stating that my death could be an outcome (at hospitals etc). I certainly don't expect it'll eventuate.
I believe forcing someone to have an abortion is wrong, but I also feel for the parents. I don't think there can be any winners, really. At the end of the day, you can't buy someone's body.
ETA: I didn't say it was only cleft palate, I'm saying some people would think cleft palate would be enough to warrant an abortion.
They did IVF. I know how much they wanted that baby. My heart breaks for all of them, but you cannot force someone to have an abortion against their will, even if they signed a contract saying they would. That contract has no weight against her right to bodily autonomy. They can certainly try to sue her though.
I agree, commercial surrogacy is a risky, risky game.
Last edited by rainbow road; 05-03-2013 at 15:04.
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