I am the BM of two gorgeous DDs but have repartnered so figured this would probably fit best here. I am at my wits end with the girls Bio dad. DP and I have the girls all the time excepting every 3rd weekend and (supposedly) half if each school holidays. We've been separated for 2 years and in that time Bio Dad has decided to move to NZ for 6 months, change his visits from bi-weekly to every school holidays to a week of the Xmas holidays to the current arrangement. He pays no child support at all yet moans about the $30 each visit for the round trip to pick up and drop off the girls. Apparently I am struggling with them because this weekend the found some lice in their hair. Never mind that I informed him on pick up that I had treated them on Thursday so they may have some eggs or hatched lice -!: never mind the fact that one is in school and the other is in daycare. Apparently since both DP and I work full-time and we have told him that we are not sharing the tolls cost for visits unless he starts helping out with their living costs means we're struggling financially and can't cope with them. I am very quickly coming to understand the BMs out there who take their kids and leave the state or take off and never let Bio dad see the kids. I guess I'd like to know whether the step mums and bio dad's in this section think that his behaviour is acceptable and we should just suck it up or whether we are right to be seriously frustrated.