Closed Thread
Page 9 of 32 FirstFirst ... 789101119 ... LastLast
Results 81 to 90 of 314
  1. #81
    Join Date
    Jan 2012
    Posts
    795
    Thanks
    109
    Thanked
    411
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    I understand what you are saying, however, what makes anyone think they can accurately judge what someones financial position is.

    Anyway, I will just have to agree to disagree I think. I don't care if someone is rich as rich and only gives me $20. I wouldn't invite people to a wedding expecting gifts regardless of their personal financial situation. It's none of my business.....and I was taught to be greatful for everything in life, be it $20 or $2000.

    We are obviously just different people with different thoughts on what is important

  2. #82
    Join Date
    Jun 2010
    Posts
    165
    Thanks
    3
    Thanked
    44
    Reviews
    0
    Quote Originally Posted by ~BEXTER~ View Post
    This thread is making me never want to go to a wedding!!

    I thought the idea of a wedding was because you loved each other and wanted to share that with friends and family.. But it sounds like its a money grab and you'll only be happy if guest give you hundreds to attend your wedding.

    It you can't afford to feed your guest don't invite as manny!!
    This! Hubby and I had a wishing well, only because we were already living together and very young. DH 24, and I was 21. We got 3k roundabout, and we were ecstatic!! It paid for our week honeymoon which we wouldn't have otherwise had! We were so grateful for anything we got, and were completely overwhelmed by the generosity of people. We had the most amazing time, and everyone had a nice surprise at our surprise wedding at our engagement party. Isn't the joy and love more important than the money??? If you want to try and get your money back, you simply can't afford to get married, keep saving!!! Hahahahahahahahaha!

  3. #83
    Join Date
    Aug 2010
    Posts
    465
    Thanks
    97
    Thanked
    172
    Reviews
    0
    If people only had a wedding for a cash grab it'd be much cheaper to just have a dinner with family then a whole reception. People choose to have a big wedding and spend thousands of dollars because they want to celebrate by showering their friends with food, drinks and entertainment, they are throwing a big party to celebrate and spending money on YOU to be with them. It's an honour to be invited, not your right, you are being honored by being fed and have money spent on you to help celebrate. The very least you can do is give a gift.
    Talk about being gracious? If a friend of mine said to me "I'm lucky if I get anything at all" after I invited you, fed you, spent money on you to be there? what a horrible attitude to have. People should be lucky you attended, if you want a gift don't invite me??? That is disgraceful.

    It doesn't matter why or how much they are spending for their wedding, it's none of your business, this is about YOU and what you are giving at a wedding, not what you expect your guests to give you. If you have a wedding and just want people there, fine, write it on the invite. No presents. But this about what you do when you attend a wedding, I would never ever go to a wedding and give nothing, with the attitude they should be lucky I'm there at all. I would be so embaressed and ashamed to go, eat the food, drink, have a good night and congratulate them with NOTHING. That is totally disgraceful, I just wouldn't go. You get 2+months notice, if you saved abit each week and went out and bought a gift, any gift, then that is better than giving nothing. I'd rather give a present then travel to be at a wedding I couldn't afford. And I would expect my guests not to come if it was going to put them out, not pay their bills or give them any sort of hardship, no, my wedding isn't more important than your well being so I would ask someone who was struggling not to come and it's ok, I don't want you to starve or get a loan just to be there.
    If I really wanted them there I would pay for it and thats what I did for my aunty, I paid her airfare to come from interstate because she had no money and the thought of coming but giving me nothing was unthinkable for her. She was willing not come.
    Being Australian doesn't mean anything, Australian culture isn't giving nothing at weddings. Everyone has wedding etiquette and if it's a cultural wedding I would respect their traditions, not say, "well I'm Australian and we don't care" Rubbish.

  4. The Following User Says Thank You to Buttermilk For This Useful Post:

    Rose&Aurelia&Hannah  (01-03-2013)

  5. #84
    Join Date
    Nov 2007
    Posts
    19,776
    Thanks
    5,212
    Thanked
    7,063
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 posts
    Why do people not just ask guests to pay for their meal if holding an event is too expensive for them?

    I have been to engagement parties and have been asked for money. I find it a bit odd - I had a glass of wine probably worth about $8 but felt obliged to give much more than that.

    I guess to me, the wedding is the actual wedding. The reception afterward is just a party. I'd happily pay for my own $30 meal and $8 drink if it meant I didn't have some stupidly expensive registry to attend and buy something I wouldn't even indulge on for myself let alone someone else.

    I love being witness to seeing my friends get married. I think it's lovely. I don't like the stupidly expensive trend it has become though and therefore putting a financial burden on not only bridesmaids and grooms but also guests.

  6. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to Benji For This Useful Post:

    RobinSparkles  (01-03-2013),Stiflers Mom  (01-03-2013)

  7. #85
    Join Date
    Nov 2007
    Posts
    19,776
    Thanks
    5,212
    Thanked
    7,063
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 posts
    I guess the thing is with the expectation that people cover their cost is there is no choice for the guests - generally guests are given either a meal or a choice out of a few. People with little money going to a restaurant would choose a restaurant within budget and a meal within budget. It doesn't seem fair to me that they should be forced to choose between a few meals they'd never choose or be able to afford to indulge on at somebody's wedding and pay for it.

  8. #86
    Join Date
    Oct 2007
    Posts
    22,848
    Thanks
    6,202
    Thanked
    16,895
    Reviews
    10
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 postsDiamond Star - 20,000 posts
    Awards:
    Bubhub Blogger - Thanks100 Posts in a week
    Quote Originally Posted by Minchi View Post
    we had a wishing well, and 17 people unaccounted for when matching up cards/money.. 17 people to match up to the only annonomous amount of $65..
    You matched up cards with money? Wow Does it really matter? You invited, I'm assuming, people you cared about. It was not their job to fund your wedding. Maybe those people just couldn't afford it? Weddings these days have become a huge cost to guests. Outfits, travel, accommodation. Then if you are on the bridal party add easily a grand to that.

    I'm just floored at some of the comments in this thread

  9. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to delirium For This Useful Post:

    RobinSparkles  (01-03-2013),~BEXTER~  (01-03-2013)

  10. #87
    Join Date
    Nov 2007
    Posts
    19,776
    Thanks
    5,212
    Thanked
    7,063
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 posts
    Why don't people think outside the square then. Friends of mine had a surprise wedding in a park and a picnic. There's no point in losing friends and spending silly amounts IF you can't afford it. I don't invite people over for dinner and expect them to give me a gift to the value of the food. It's a strange notion to me.

  11. The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to Benji For This Useful Post:

    delirium  (01-03-2013),Gandalf  (03-03-2013),HugsBunny  (01-03-2013),~BEXTER~  (01-03-2013)

  12. #88
    HugsBunny's Avatar
    HugsBunny is offline Once upon a time there was a bunny.........
    Join Date
    Oct 2008
    Posts
    6,603
    Thanks
    4,531
    Thanked
    1,966
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by missie_mack View Post
    I don't think anyone has said their wedding was too expensive for them though??
    And have you seen the threads where people who couldn't afford too many guests have asked about having guests pay for their own meals?? Bahahaha.... if you thought this thread was bad....
    Someone has said in this thread that you should give as much as the couple have spent on you. Reading between the lines I'd say that means guests were expected to cover the cost of the reception. If you can afford the reception, doesn't it stand to reason then that there was no need for the guests to cover their attendance costs to the couple??

  13. The Following User Says Thank You to HugsBunny For This Useful Post:

    delirium  (01-03-2013)

  14. #89
    Join Date
    Nov 2007
    Posts
    19,776
    Thanks
    5,212
    Thanked
    7,063
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 posts
    i'm attending a wedding soon, this is making me nervous haha. A judgement on my friendship and relationship with them based on what material things I give them lol.

    I think it is unfair to expect a guest to cover their costs when a guest has no say in the cost.

  15. #90
    Join Date
    Mar 2008
    Posts
    6,311
    Thanks
    2,387
    Thanked
    4,599
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by Benji View Post
    i'm attending a wedding soon, this is making me nervous haha. A judgement on my friendship and relationship with them based on what material things I give them lol.

    I think it is unfair to expect a guest to cover their costs when a guest has no say in the cost.
    Just don't spend more on your dress than the gift

  16. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to NancyBlackett For This Useful Post:

    Benji  (01-03-2013),Stiflers Mom  (01-03-2013)


 

Similar Threads

  1. No gift at wedding
    By cookiedough in forum Weddings
    Replies: 21
    Last Post: 13-11-2013, 00:39
  2. 1st wedding anniversary gift???
    By kayem in forum General Chat
    Replies: 11
    Last Post: 21-08-2013, 18:24
  3. Wedding anniversary gift
    By tubster in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
    Replies: 10
    Last Post: 14-12-2012, 22:02

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Mother and Baby Shop
Save $$$ during our Christmas Sale Mother and Baby Shop
Great prices on Schoenhut kids pianos, toys, baby clothing as well as big brands like Pigeon, NUK, Cherub Baby and many more. Sale starts on 1 November 2016 and ends on the 27 December 2016. Hurry! Place your order today!
sales & new stuffsee all
CarmelsBeautySecrets
Growing your own natural nails is easy. Years ago, I devised a simple and very effective technique which really helps boosts the nails' growth in as little as three days! And most importantly keeps them that way.
featured supporter
Baby Sensory
Baby Sensory is the only baby programme that offers a complete approach to learning & development. Our classes offer an exciting world full of fun sensory experiences for parents and babies to enjoy.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!