I like to give enough money to pay my way for the evening (which I believe is etiquette) and then some to send the bride and groom off. Lets face it we do things like that all the time for birthdays which happen yearly, a wedding happens only once (hopefully)
Just my thoughts that's all.
A gift is for the giver to determine what or how much to give, not for the recipient to give direction on (unless asked for input). Only my opinion of course!
I also believe in etiquette and there are certain things like weddings that have common etiquette. You don't have to give money if you can't afford it, but a gift is just something you do. Giving someone a $20 gift for their wedding is just rude, Id feel that person didn't care about us and only came for a free night. It doesn't take much to go out and buy a thoughtful gift or give a decent amount of money to start them off in their married life. Its normal etiquette that seems lost on some people. You only get married once, it's an important occasion and is why people spend money on weddings, receptions etc. It's a big deal so I take it seriously when I'm invited to give them something to mark the occasion.
I don't understand why people have weddings then expect the GUEST to cover their meal. It's a wedding if you can't afford to host them all then don't invite so many people!!
I'd give $50 you are paying more then enough in travel cost.
We certainly didn't invite people and expect to recoup the cost of their 'freebie evening' with a gift of equal or greater value.
We also didn't pay any attention to how much each gift might have cost a guest.
I don't think the dollar value of your present determines how much you love and appreciate the person anyway. Some of the most generous-hearted people I know, are only able to give 'small' presents. It shouldn't matter if you ask me.
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