We have moved back to a small town and when a wedding occurs its very much town excitement. No one gives little here, its just not done. So perhaps we are talking the difference in 1. Generations, 2. Location, 3. Culture, 4. Wedding style???
And yes I'm sorry but I have found some posts in here towards others remarkably rude and nasty. Believe me I don't get offended easily and no offence has been shown to me at all, but I sure have noticed it. I just think its time to say give what you think you feel is fair (be that nothing, little, alot, whatever) and let us all just agree to disagree.
Is quite simple to say that considering the extent of this thread there will not be a time that all agree with an outcome.