We gave $30. We haven't been invited for the gift
I'd give what you are comfortable giving.
A real friend wouldn't care if you gave no money at all, and would be happy that you came despite it being costly for you to do so. A friend who would feel annoyed that you *only* gave a certain amount, IMO, isn't someone who deserves a single red cent of yours.
It's costing you a lot to go to the wedding in the first place, if I were the bride, I wouldn't expect anything.
When DH and I got married we had a wishing well, but we also had 'destination' bucks and hens parties. We didn't receive anything from the people who attended our bucks and hens.
We received $100 from my single friends and over $200 from families, some gave 300-500! We made almost 10k in money and we only had 100 people. I would feel really really bad giving $50 for me and dh attending because I feel I have to give what I received. One friend didn't even invite me because she had a small wedding with close family/friends under 50 people and I didn't make the list which was fine, but she came to mine (we were closer a few years back when I got married) and I still felt I had to send her something.
Hmmm. This has got me thinking now as I am going to a wedding in Fiji that's costing $2k... We haven't got the formal invite yet but I would hope there won't be more expectations!!!
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I think you give what you can afford. Especially travelling, accomodation etc they should be grateful that you made the effort & were able to attend.
For this reason, when we got married we had a wishing well but had asked that people don't put money in the wedding card (so they didn't have to put their name to how much gave). We had a well for the money & a pile for the cards. Most of our guests had to travel & I didn't want them feeling pressured to give a certain amount.
Good luck! Only give what you can afford & they should be happy that you made the effort to go!
$75-$100. If they are close people perhaps more but not less (this is my thoughts anyway).
But yes if I was the bride I would be uncomfortable with you giving a sum of money that you really can't afford.
And yes you are traveling etc.
We had similar but everyone coming from far put $50 plus in. But some who lived close and had no money issue only gave $20 which I thought was odd but so be it.
It doesn't really matter just give what you feel comfortable with and I am sure the bride and groom will appreciate it regardless of the amount.
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