Minority in this thread.
And when someone comes in, tells you to get out, is being aggressive, calls you names and you laugh about it, thank her, all group together just because you don't agree with someone, that IS bullying. People are allowed to diagree with you, it doesn't make you right just because you have 5 friends who agree with you, and its not right to tell people to stop debating or get out of a thread because they don't agree with you.
You do need to think about how you treat people online and this is common behaviour on bubhub that seems to happen alot. Mods need to look at this alot further and stop allowing older members to act this way towards minority opinions in threads.
If you don't like a post, report It. That's what the mods want people to do.
However I do not believe that any bullying has gone on. You can say that it's rude to give $20 note earlier in this thread but can't handle it when someone says they feel expecting a certain amount is greedy? How is it any different?
So I'm a bully because I found the correlation between this thread and the trolley one funny?!
When most people in a thread disagree with you that usually means they are going to have similar/the same opinions as eachother. Am I not allowed to thank a post if I agree? Am I not allowed to also reply if someone else has, incase that means more than one person is disagreeing with you?
Buttermilk I am sorry if you are feeling bullied. I don't think anybody has a problem with you as an individual. I personally dislike the modern wedding which entails the bride to feel, and therefore act, like a "princess". The "my day" and the "fairytale" catch phrases are a new phenomena, and people do seem to be extending themselves to have weddings that are way out of their budget and are therefore setting up wishing wells, flight vouchers etc to try to have family and guests chip in for their honeymoon or the stupid amounts they, as average working class people, spent on "their day". If anybody said to me that $20 isn't enough to attend a wedding I would say I am sorry I didn't realise their was a door charge for this 'privilidge'. It's not you I assure you, it's this new culture.
Those I know over 50 tell me all the time they don't understand the 'my day' or the huge loans as when they wed it was simple and what they could afford. There was none of this princess stuff.
And I think if the expectation is that people cover their 'costs' people should make note of the cost and that expectation on the invite. People do not know others wedding budget, how could they? So a simple "attendence charge: $75" would be better IMO than expecting them to be mind readers and feel unwelcome because they got it wrong and didn't give a good enough amount. I think it's rather back-stabby to invite somebody and then get sh!tty with them behind their back because of the gift they gave.
if people were honest upfront that guests pay for their attendence then people would have a true choice and could say I am really sorry but I cannot afford to attend your wedding.
Please do not resort to personal attacks as that just leads to threads being closed and no one wants that
Members it seems this thread is getting a little heated and/or personal, if you personally feel posts are not in the keeping with the spirit of BubHub please report. The moderators read all reports and ONLY the moderators can see reported posts.
Please acquaint yourself with BubHub's definition of cyber-bullying. If you believe I've breached it then report me. If not please stop calling me names, lest you be reported yourself.
Nomsie, I just saw your post. I'm happy to leave the matter be if I'm not called a bully again
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