i have heard of parents with no help leaving young kids at home so they can make ends meet and while I don't condone it, I can see how they end up in that position if it's that or starve.
I am returning to work in less than 3 weeks part-time and DS is going into daycare.
We have no family here so if DS is sick one of us has to stay home with him. There are no alternatives.
An employer absolutely can't insist you come into work if you genuinely have to look after a sick child. If your employer does get ****ty about it then I would get a medical cert just to be on the safe side, because if they do take disciplinary action against you and you have that, then they won't have a leg to stand on.
That's pretty extreme though!
Wow, it sucks that so many people have that problem . When I go back to work after maternity leave for about 12 months I won't be able to take carers leave but if there was a serious genuine need for it they'd swing it for me. It's just that it would put me behind in some things that I can't really afford (career wise for myself, it's not a problem for them) to be behind in.
But when I've needed carers leave in the last 12 months it's always been given without a blink and with no need for justification. Just a "Oh, your kid is sick? Wow, that sucks, hope he's better soon. See you when you get back, let us know if it's going to be more than a couple of days" and that's it.
My DS2 wasn't in ICU but he was in hospital incredibly sick with rotavirus and my husband had to take a few days off because DS1 couldn't be near DS2 in case he caught it too, and I couldn't look after a rowdy 3 year old as well as my poor DS2 who was 15 months old at the time - DH's old work were absolutely awful to him about it, then again they are also the ones who tried to give him a written warning for leaving work in the middle of the day when I suffered from a placental abruption and was taken to hospital at 38 weeks pregnant. So glad he doesn't work there anymore.
Why won't you be able to take carers leave Eko?
DH needed the day off to watch our toddler at home while we waited for family to fly in from overseas to watch the one at home.
His boss is in her late 40s with no kids by choice and always goes on about her kid free lifestyle. So I really think she just has no realistic concept of what being a parent is like.
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