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    Default How much quiet time would you give a 4month old - is this too much?

    So DS is 4 months, and for the last few weeks he has been having several times a day where he is just irritable no matter what I try and do, read to him, play, etc. so I will put him in his cot, and he will lay there playing with his toys, rolling around, talking to himself. Most of the time he ends up falling asleep. If he doesn't and starts to get crabby again I pick him up and we play again. I do this probably 3 - 4 times a day. I just feel bad him being in there alone even though he is quite happy, I guess I feel guilty I should be stimulating him not leaving him alone. What do you think, should I try something else or is this ok?
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    Default Re: How much quiet time would you give a 4month old - is this too much?

    That sounds fine to me. we forget how stimulating everything is for a little bub, just taking everything in. Both my kids (3 months and 3 years) can usually only handle being interacted with for about 20 mins of each hour. Then they're happier left to their own devices. They are little introverts, like me

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    That sound fine to me too. It is so easy to over-stimulate a little bub - just the normal hustle and bustle of everyday life can be enough sometimes! It sounds like your bub is telling you when he needs time out, and if he's happy having some quiet time on his own go with it.

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    OMG i wish my bub would do what yours does! My bub when awake can only play for 15 mins on his own before 'calling' for mummy. Then he wants mummy to play with him or carry him. I think your bub is doing very well.

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    Default How much quiet time would you give a 4month old - is this too much?

    My Bub does similar things lol, I just leave her to it and listen to her chat. If she starts getting cranky I go in to get her, otherwise I let her have her quiet time. I know how she feels though cause I like my alone time too lol.

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    You're doing fine. As long as he is happy (which he seems to be) don't give it a second thought.
    Like you said, he will let you know when he's had enough.

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    Ok thanks everyone, i feel much better about it now. I have to say i don't mind as I can actually have some quiet time to myself!

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    If your instinct is telling you that he is happy then I wouldn't feel bad about leaving him there. As you said, if he grumbles then you go and get him and try something else. I'm sure he gets plenty of cuddles and play time with you at other times.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mom2TwoDSs View Post
    OMG i wish my bub would do what yours does! My bub when awake can only play for 15 mins on his own before 'calling' for mummy. Then he wants mummy to play with him or carry him. I think your bub is doing very well.
    My DD is like this to.

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    Not everyone likes to be surrounded by others all the time. Your little person may be developing their introverted, introspective personality and actually really need the time to themselves to stop feeling anxious. One of my little guys is like that... everyone will be buzzing around rushing here and there... and we'll find him tucked away in a room or corner of the garden just blissfully doing his own thing. He's always been like that.

    If he's happy- let him be.


 

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