I love all of my kids equally but I always fall immediately and hopelessly in love with my newborns. I see the older kids as being independent, able-bodied little people who need me less than the squishy beautiful little new person! Can't help it.
As an extension of that I guess I always have a soft spot for the baby of the family
Stiflers Mom (22-02-2013)
I love dd1 because she was my gift after a horrible labour. I love dd2 because she gifted me an easy labour.
I do love both my girls - but they are definitely times I want to send them to nannas house so I can have a cup in peace.
I think what people have issues with is the more and less aspect of love. I love both of my children equally, I demonstrate it differently to each of them because they ARE different. They have different personalities, needs, temperaments so clearly whilst the AMOUNT of love given to each is the same it is still a very different love for each. So try not to focus on more or less and just learn to accept this new love for your new son.
Nope, I love her differently on different days.
I adore my DS2, he is my safe place when i cant take my DS1 anymore. they are 3 + 4 now and i had PND with DS1 he was 8 weeks prem i was 20 when i had him and i had ds 2 just over a year later.
I love my DS1 so much its the same crazy protection mother love.
but i do like them differently
Thanks everyone. I felt so horrible admitting it that I wasn't sure about posting originally but I feel better now.
I do love them both and that is the important thing at the moment. I can't wait until DS2 is older and has his own personality.
Hang in there your baby is still so young it will come when their little personality starts to come out.
your DS2 is still a newbie, give yourself a chance. I didn't bond at all with DS1 till he was about 6 months old and now we are very close. I love him to bits. I love all three of my boys differently, they do different things that pis# me off and they have different qualities that I like about them. So I love them all but differently...
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