Okay so before I begin... I am an atheist. I do not believe there is any sort or god at all. I have told DD this, but explained the basic rundown of gods, that there are various gods, what some of them are, blah blah blah. She knows that she has the right to believe in god, any god, if she wants... She just knows that I don't believe.
Anyway, ages ago I was told if I wanted to say no to religious education for her at school I had to write a note and hand it in at the office. I did that.
Yesterday I discovered that she was in a religious education class. Obviously this annoys me.
What annoys me more, however, are some of the details. When I asked why she was in it, she said the teacher (this was the RE teacher, not her usual teacher) didn't check the roll because she wanted them all to learn something special. Wtf?! So deliberately teaching kids who have had their parents request they don't attend. Furious at that.
She was told about how "everything is made by God." She has a handout with the same enormous and quite simply, unproven, claims written on it. Pretty annoyed again.
DP informed me that DD had also let him know that apparently, if he and I didn't start believing, we would end up in Hell. To be fair I have no idea if the teacher said this or conversation was just opening and a friend said it. Regardless, DD now believes it all.
I have never wanted DD to attend because she is a black and white thinker. No grey areas exist for her. So at school, she is taught, she is there to learn facts. Therefore anyone who is an adult in the school and is clearly not a parent is a teacher. Everything they teach is factual... Since school is all about learning facts. That's how she sees it.
So basically, she won't question this. If she was capable of critical thinking I would maybe allow it. Unlikely, but it's more of a possibility than as she currently is... A black and white thinker.
This morning I gave her a brief rundown of why it's not okay for her to attend, why I don't think she should participate on religion until older and able to decide which religion best suits her beliefs, etc. don't get me wrong. She is free to believe... Just not participate in an organised religion. I do not believe it will be good for her in any way at all.
Regardless of your beliefs in a higher power, I'm sure most parents would be furious to discover the school had gone against wishes you has provided in writing and not only that, but you have witnessed the ill effects of it.
DD does not need to believe that I'm going to hell. No child should believe that of their parents!