+ Reply to Thread
Results 1 to 5 of 5
  1. #1
    Join Date
    Feb 2013
    Posts
    2
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked
    0
    Reviews
    0

    Default Freaking out

    Hi all... im a first timer so sorry if this is int he wrong place or im not doing thi right but i really need to get this off my chest!

    I recently found out I am pregnant with my 3rd... I have a son who is 6 and and a daughter who is 4. My husband and i only decided in december to start trying and we hit the nail on the head first go in Jan. Im currently 7 week. Due Oct 7th.

    When we decided to start trying I was super excited. A new baby, another sibling for my gorgeous kids. Perfect.

    The day after I found out I was pregnant I started freaking out. First about what if something is wrong with the baby. What if he/she is sick or disabled or ... just what if.

    Then started the "what if this was the biggest mistake ever?". Will my kids hate having a brother or sister thrown in the mix? Is the age gap too big? OMG i have to start all over again... can we afford this? Can we still do all the travelling we do so often? will I cope? Will my husband resent me if this baby changes our life drastically and ill end up a single mum to 3 kids.

    We moved 1500km away form family about a year and a half ago... this will be my first child away from everyone. Can I do this on my own?

    Anyway... now that I have brought myself to tears AGAIN... i need to hear some positive stories. Is life with 3 a lot more different to 2?

    xx Cherie

  2. #2
    Join Date
    Oct 2009
    Location
    Adelaide
    Posts
    528
    Thanks
    354
    Thanked
    408
    Reviews
    2
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    I did some of this when I found out I was pregnant this time around. I have two children and we'd lost three pregnancies, so it definitely wasn't that I didn't want the baby, just as you know you want yours.

    I think it just takes your mind a little while to adapt to such a massive change, to get your head around all of the differences it will make in your life. Over a few weeks you'll find you adjust to the idea and start just feeling excited and thrilled. It's just that temporary "No turning back now" feeling, which I imagine a lot of newly pregnant mums feel. Probably much like you'd feel if you accepted a great job in another State and then started to have second thoughts about the big changes, even though you know you really want that job.

    I also had that awful fear that something was going to go wrong. After three losses, how could it possibly go well? I was envisaging every scary scenario possible. Each time I went for an ultrasound I'd mentally be rehearsing for bad news. And guess what - my baby girl miraculously seems just fine!

    I wish I could tell you that in a few weeks or a month you'll stop stressing out and worrying about your child, but as you no doubt already know as a mother, that's always going to be there, although I think it becomes a lot less terrifying when you get some good scans back and other things to reassure you.

    Just take it one day at a time and cut yourself some slack if you're a bit of a deer in the headlights at the moment.

  3. #3
    Join Date
    Nov 2011
    Posts
    1,391
    Thanks
    812
    Thanked
    688
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    This is only my first but I've definitely had moments where I've suddenly thought...OMG what have we done?

    Its not that I don't want the baby, he is very much wanted and so loved already, but I sometimes wonder how we are going to get him through to adulthood without screwing it up somewhere along the line.

    I also get a bit freaked out when I realise just how much our life is about to change and how different things will be. I worry that we will be tired and stressed all the time, we will fight/argue all the time, our relationship will change because we won't have as much time for each other and its not just us anymore.

    I'm pretty sure its all normal, and its nice to know that other people have the freak out moments too

  4. #4
    Join Date
    Oct 2012
    Posts
    987
    Thanks
    415
    Thanked
    201
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts

    Default Re: Freaking out

    Quote Originally Posted by jellybeanicecream View Post
    It's just that temporary "No turning back now" feeling, which I imagine a lot of newly pregnant mums feel..
    You nailed it right on the head there!

  5. #5
    Join Date
    Sep 2012
    Location
    Port Lincoln
    Posts
    59
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked
    0
    Reviews
    0
    I have two older siblings age gap of ten and eight year plus a younger sibling who is 18months younger than me. I personally loved having older siblings - they have helped me through a lot and I (currently pregnant with my first - due in six weeks) am looking to have similar age gaps between my children (maybe not quite as big). I know my sister didn't like me at first but that was only because she took on a lot of responsibility with us two younger ones but that all changed.

    I understand your doubts i only have six weeks and our bub will be here and i still have days of 'are we ready' 'am i going to be a good parent' 'what if something is wrong when he's born' and all that but im sure its all worth it - plus you've done it twice before I'm sure you'll be fine doing it again

    Also as you and your husband decided to try for a baby - he's prob freaking out about the same things but im sure it will work our wonderfully


 

Similar Threads

  1. Freaking out --- BFP or Not?
    By MrsSparkle in forum Pregnancy & Birth General Chat
    Replies: 4
    Last Post: 23-05-2012, 08:22

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Shapland Swim Schools
Shapland's at participating schools offer free baby orientation classes once a month - no cost no catches. Your baby will be introduced to our "natural effects" orientation program develop by Shapland's over 3 generations, its gentle and enjoyable.
sales & new stuffsee all
Bub Hub Sales Listing
HAVING A SALE? Let parents know about it with a Bub Hub Sales listing. Listings are featured on our well trafficked Sales Page + selected randomly to appear on EVERY page
featured supporter
ProSwim
ProSwim Rostrevor runs learn to swim classes for children and adults. Lessons are run during the Summer months (Oct-Mar). Our indoor centre at Plympton Park has lessons all year round, including school holidays.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!