MummaOJ - Seriously, no offence taken. I trust him a lot, we've been close friends for 8 years, and he's never been that type of guy, but then there's always that seed of doubt. That "Well, obviously I'm not coming first because XXX is a better place to be". We're talking about it now - I avoid confrontation at any cost so it's taken a lot to really bring it up. But right now I feel pretty crap.