Not so much a family topic, but I'm in a long distance relationship. I live in Brisbane. OH lives in Melbourne.
He is in the army (reserves) and went for special services training but missed out on the first test by ONE SECOND so he basically has to work for 12 months (not much reserves work going so he's looking for another job now) and try again next year. Our original plan was hopefully him getting through, doing training (while I do my diploma), doing a deployment and hopefully within 24 months he moves up here (I can't move thanks to ex-DP who has DD 50% of the time - another story entirely).
Before he went on course he mentioned it could be a 3 year contract with the Army in Syd if there are no deployment opportunities with Reserves. So all of a sudden looking at 4 years. Now there's another 12 months thrown in there.
What's the longest you've done kind distance successfully? At this stage we are managing to see each other once a month but now I'm studying its going to be more difficult as I have to now work around DD, studying and then when I can afford it (which at this point won't be for what feels like years). He'll be coming up here the next 2 times.
I just don't know how long I can do it for. If he were on course it felt like it'd have been easier. But now I know he's going to be working for 12 months before trying again I'm a bit... Stressed maybe.
We've talked about marriage and kids, etc. I can't wait 5 years to have another baby. I don't want to have to wait 5 years to live with him.
As far as telling him all this, I don't really want to push him. I knew what we were in for when we got together. We've been great friends for 8 years so I know him and his lifestyle well. I don't want to tell him what to do.
He wasn't planning on a relationship for this reason but this isn't something we could ignore or avoid any longer. We both truly love each other so much, the thought of even seeing someone else... Neither of us like it.
I guess where I'm going with this is what would YOU do in this situation? How long have you done long distance? How did it end up? Good and bad.