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    You haven't done anything wrong. It's between your SIL and her husband. I'd carry on how you would as if nothing had happened and stay out of it.

    A few weeks before I had DD, I got this strange group email from my best friend's boyfriend. My best friend had just told him that she was leaving him for a close friend of his. It was all such a huge drama, the new partner's brother wouldn't speak to her for years, the scorned ex trashed all of her belongings and turned as many people as he could against her...

    Six years on, my best friend is happily married to the new partner, they have two kids, and everyone's forgotten about it all really.

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    Default SIL cheats on husband with her best friends husband!!!! WOW (True)

    The way I see it is I'm not in kindy and I don't have to choose sides. Nor do I have to justify my friendships to my husband or anyone else.

    This had nothing to do with your marriage or relationship so I don't see why anyone has the right to expect you to sever your friendship with her if you don't want to.

    Some people need to grow up!

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    Default SIL cheats on husband with her best friends husband!!!! WOW (True)

    Quote Originally Posted by Minchi View Post
    I've been in a similar situation. My XH cheated on me with my best friend.. who was 7 months pregnant to her own hubby. XH tried to win me over for 3 years after that.

    To cut a long story short - they are dead for me. The hurt I felt was out of this world.

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    Default SIL cheats on husband with her best friends husband!!!! WOW (True)

    Quote Originally Posted by blubber View Post
    That would be pretty hard to deal with when it isnt the truth. There is no doubt in this as it has all come to a head. I have made contact with her, the only one from this side of the family besides the DH. I am so divided about what to do as they all know we were great friends.
    Although this whole situation is about my BIL and my beautiful Niece & Nephew I have this selfish component, like everyone else i guess to try and get my head around it. SIL has LOST EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE!!!
    She has lost everyone and everything, geez, I hope he is worth it.

    Do you think you will stay friends? What a difficult situation.

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    I stand by my friends. *shrug* I don't have to agree with what they've done, in fact I can be beeping furious with them for doing something I don't like. But unless they've done something pretty drastic I won't just drop my friends on the say so of other people.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Eko View Post
    I stand by my friends. *shrug* I don't have to agree with what they've done, in fact I can be beeping furious with them for doing something I don't like. But unless they've done something pretty drastic I won't just drop my friends on the say so of other people.
    I agree, but this would be a hard one when it involves family also.

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    My grandmother ran off with my granddad's sisters husband. They left the country as everyone was so hurt. Two families broken but life goes on, people need to learn to deal with in their own way. The hurt is still so raw give people time to process and come to terms with it all. It OK to be mad, that doesn't mean that the will wipe her for life.

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    Default SIL cheats on husband with her best friends husband!!!! WOW (True)

    It would, but it's early days and when the dust settles common sense would have to prevail, because they share children together they are all going to be 'stuck' for want of a better word together for their life time.

    Hopefully time can heal, just because she is a cheat, doesn't make her a bad mum. Feelings are going to have to be set aside eventually.

    Personally I think cheating is cruel and awful, but I wouldn't walk out on a good friend that did it.


 

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