Not to derail the other thread but..
how would you handle a situation where you just found out(had it confirmed) your bi polar, attention seeker, often suicidal mother lies about not smoking around your kids. In a closed up house. Holding a toddler(one that even had breathing difficulties cause by prematurity resulting in being on Cpap at birth). Chain smoking.
You expressly say "do not smoke around them. Don't smoke inside with them here" as you drop them off on the rare occasion you have an important appointment with no one else to babysit. You live a big distance away from your appointment which is also not far from their house.
I am so angry. I have made it clear my whole life I think smoking is disgusting. I made it clear I do not want smokers around my kids, particularly in a confined space.
How do you go mad at someone who constantly cries suicide and has attempted on several occasions for less of a reason.
Simply presenting the facts has not worked in the past. Neither had explaining the Sids risk factor or exaggerating the fact that prem babies are more susceptible to respiratory problems, allergies etc.. Dd2 is not the only prem baby in the family either. The newest addition is my 4 weeks corrected(13 weeks actual) niece.
She is putting her cigarettes before the health of her grandkids. Can't even go an hour without. Doesn't have the respect to move away from people when outside around non smokers either.
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