Um, no need to be rude.
A wonder week is a developmental milestone of cognitive, emotional and social learnings your baby might be going through.
It can sometimes explain unsettled behaviour. You can download an app that explains it all, and what you can expect.
Actually, wonder weeks have their foundation in 35 years of research. I do agree that sometimes 'it's a wonder week' can be a convenient explanation for behaviour that is hard to understand, but, with my son at least, the correlation between his behaviour and the wonder weeks is absolutely spot on, including the new skills that he has developed when the WW finishes.
I wouldn't be so quick to dismiss wonder weeks - at the very least I find it can make tricky behaviour more bearable when you can refer to some sort of predictable time frame. In the book they describe that for a baby, the changes they undergo during a wonder week are so unsettling, it's like being thrown around on a ship in a stormy sea, and so they cling to their parents to keep them stable. When I read that I felt I had a little more patience (most of the time).
In your case, it sounds like the 6 week growth spurt.
Last edited by harvs; 18-02-2013 at 10:18.
fair point about the wonder weeks, sorry if i came aross rude when you're only trying to offer advice and i know being sleep deprived and a bit short on patience these days insnt much of an excuse.
He's very clingy - absolutely screams when i put him down for a sleep in his basenette, so to make it a bit easier on myself im just comfort feeding him (wrapped) to sleep for now then putting him back in his bed. (hoping it doesnt form a habbit?!) He'll sleep 20-30mins and there is just no point in getting him back to sleep after that so i'll feed, pump, settle, sleep cycle all over again.
dd is having her nap now so when he wakes i'll bring him to bed with me and feed him laying down so i can get a rest in.
The constant feeding doesnt seem to fit in with that wonder week description - this is what's exhausting me the most about it all.
munching on lactation cookies as i have no desire to even think about food today. just crave an hr of un-disturbed sleep and i think i'll be ok.
oh look at that, a whole 15mins and he's awake. off i go again.
I wouldn't usually think of the weather either but my SIL was saying yesterday her baby has been really unsettled since its been so hot.
I really really feel for you, its so hard when you're not getting any sleep, especially when you have the guilt of neglecting the other kids. Go easy on yourself, your DD will be fine watching dvds and munching on snacks til you can get to her. I also used to read to my DD while I was feeding so she got a little bit of attention lol!
Also, I remember my very easy baby had a few really unsettled days, and I was rocking, feeding, everything, trying to get him to stop crying. Eventually just gave up, put him on the bed and walked out to have a breather.... and 5 mins later he was asleep, and had a good sleep. I think he just needed me to leave him the f alone hahahaha! So if all else fails and you feel like you're going crazy- put him down, go and have a full cup of tea where you can't hear him, get yourself together, then go back in and face the music
And if you are feeding non-stop that should help your supply, I personally wouldn't bother pumping coz its so much work and feeding is better at increasing supply anyway, keep going on the lactation cookies, lots and lots of water (dehydration can cause a bit of a drop in supply too), maybe porridge for breaky and see how that goes for a couple of days maybe just to give yourself a bit of a break. But thats just me coz I hate expressing with a passion!
i also hate expressing and i usually dont need to/cant. but i found it helps thru growth spurts. the first day i wont get a drop but if i keep at it for the following day or 2 i can get 20-30mls after a feed and its great to have that reserve for when im stuffed. like now. but he wont take bottle from me
You may be mis interpreting his sleep signs as hunger...? They will get jerky, lose eye contact, grizzly etc...?
I know there is a lot of controversy about controlled/comfort crying (and I wouldn't recommend it for such a little bub) but like a pp said, letting bub cry for 5 mins might be just what he needs to get some energy out and himself off to sleep. Good luck!
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