you don't HAVE to do anything...don't have a party if you don't want to...but don't have one so that your kid gets worshipped! I see birthday parties as a chance for kids to celebrate WITH their friends, so I make an effort for everyone to have fun/feel good.
I have never felt pressure to invite the whole class (even if others decided to)...i am careful not to exclude just 1 or 2 because that is mean. 1 year i did invite the whole class (there was only 16 kids anyway) and every other year I have kept it to about 8-10.
I do party bags because i LOVE making them lol It is so much fun finding good stuff to go in there, I normally spend less than $5 a bag.
It is not all about DS (or DD when she is old enough to get it), it is about getting friends together to have a good time. I would hate to go to a party that was only about the birthday person...that is just a bit off IMO.
Pass the parcel is fun...there is clearly a winner that opens the last wrapping, but what is the harm in a small treat for the "runners up".
I find your posts about this really grinchy and without care for the kids. Where is the fun and kindness? Why are you the domain of teaching kids to lose? Is it really a lesson to be learned at a party on a game based on pure luck? Surely, if you are so adamant that kids be taught this lesson you should set up some skill based games and make them compete to the death for their mini snickers bar!
Stiflers Mom (16-02-2013)
I think we need to stop and realise just how easy it is to get sucked into the whole`pony ride, jumping castle, party bag, magician' caper. Children's parties are a massive money making industry - but you have choices.
I love the at home party - with a few games, lots of running around, healthy and delicious food and cake.
We play pass the parcel - each layer has the child `do' something sing a song, find something in the room that is green, find the youngest person in the circle and sit next to them etc..... Only one prize - and that's okay, because that's what parties are like at our place.
No party bags - refuse to contribute to the sweatshop culture.....
And that works for us
I don't feel pressured because my and my families values and beliefs are not being compromised - and I'm okay with the lack of prizes, party bags and healthy food
My years of party going has shown me that some children will always cry at parties - so it doesn't faze me....it's going to happen regardless of how I wrap the pass the parcel - so I just let the emotion come....parties are hard work for everyone: children and adults, birthday girl/boy and their guests.
P.S. parents love me because their kids don't come home all hyped up from food drink with colours/flavours/additives and without bags full of stuff that will inevitably end up on the car floor (and then sneaked into the bin)
I'm the same. I do 'old fashioned' parties, with home made food, pin the tail on the donkey and statues For a usual party, everything included costs me $100. I give them a big kinder party and that costs me about $150. We don't feel the need to hire fairy face painters or have expensive games. Each to their own though.
If a parent wants a low key party, have one. You don't have to invite the whole class, nor go OTT. Most kids are happy to go crazy, play and have fun.
Parents love me because I put stickers and little toys in the party bag but not party whistles.
I'd never heard of a prize in every layer before.
When I used to play it as a kid there were random prizes scattered throughout, and then the 'big' prize at the end. Not one in each layer.
Half the fun was that when you peeled off a layer you didn't know if you were going to get one of the surprise little prizes or not. I'd say maybe 1 in 4 (??) was a little prize, so they were a big deal when you got one even if they were only little.
I don't really like the idea of there being one in each layer, TBH. I don't remember meltdowns at children's parties over pass the parcel when I was kid! Maybe just because it was always done like that though?? Maybe now they expect a prize every time, which seems like a shame.
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