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    So I found out my DH cheated by meeting someone online, then meeting in person several times, one kiss, and exchanging nude photos on email. He insists they did not DTD.

    I'd like to hear if anyone has had similar and if they were able to rebuild and forgive, and how long it took.

    I found out about this within this week and I'm totally confused about whether to leave or stay and my biggest question is can I ever trust him again?

    He kissed me tonight and if felt really dirty and I told him to stop.

    So, so confused.

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    Hugs hun. I've not experienced it and the only advice I can give is follow your heart and do what is right for you

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    So so so sorry to read! Maybe counselling will help with trust issues, etc. I guess this depends on whether u both want to work on it n think the other is worth it.

    Hugs OP x

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    I'm so sorry you are going through this.
    I've been there before and don't recommend staying. Once your trust has been betrayed, it's impossible to fully restore it. The incident will always be there in the back of your mind, things will remind you of that time and trigger all those emotions even years down the track.
    Ultimately the decision is yours though. If you feel that the relationship is salvageable, book into counselling, outline conditions your partner must abide by- make all of his email, fb, passwords accessible to you, if that's what it takes.

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    Default Healing after cheating?

    So sorry. I have experienced something similar in a relationship, but it's far different when children are involved. No one can tell you what to do, but these are the things I would think about.

    My actions would depend on how I found out (did he get caught? Did he confess?) and how remorseful he seemed. I would be put off by him trying to kiss me, because it seems like a selfish act iykwim, rather than considering how you might feel.

    Has your relationship been in trouble for a while or has this come totally out of the blue? Do you feel like forgiveness is possible?

    Take time to think about it, and make sure you let yourself grieve. If he pressures you to 'get over it' or make a decision, IMO, he is disrespecting you further.

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    We've been to marriage counseling, have done what they told us, and have tried really hard.

    I'm not sure where to go from here because there I still have zero trust for him. It's very hard being with him because I don't believe a thing he says. His actions say he is committed. I am confused.

    We are booked in for our next counseling session in the first week of January. At the moment I am really depressed and he feels responsible. I have massive anxiety now since all this happened- I had it before for years but it has worsened.

    We feel like we don't know what to do. I don't want to split up because I want my family together, my kids to have mum & dad, and to be there to support each other, but how can we when I don't trust him and its not changing?

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    Hugs Hun.
    I know where your at I was there.
    Now, years on, I am happily married to my dh with 2 lovely boys.
    If he is worth fighting for you will keep fighting for him, your family and your self.
    I still get flashes but is not as bad.
    I love my dh and we had to fight for what we have.
    I'm here if you want to talk.

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