So Friday is upon us, and it's our weekend to have my husbands sons 18 (with intellectual disability) and 16. It's not even the end of the work day yet and I'm already tense!
We've been doing the "every other weekend" and some school holiday time for the past 3 years my DH & I have been together - so I'm not new at this, but I just hate this feeling of dread and anxiety I feel whenever they're coming to stay. How do you cope with it?
It's difficult particularly at the moment, we are living with my parents, so the space we're in is not very big. We have our bedroom and the boys sleep on camp beds right outside the door in a small lounge area (really not ideal when TTC!). During the day they occupy the lounge, slothing on the couches playing video games. As a result, I feel like I spend most of the weekend when they're around as a prisoner in my bedroom if I want any time to myself, or to relax with DH.
With the weather being awfully hot, we're not too keen on venturing outside, and as typical teenagers, anywhere we might take them to get out of the house - they want money spent on them for either crappy food, more games, electronics, etc. Building a house at the moment, we simply don't have extra cash laying around, they whinge and moan any time we may suggest doing something which doesn't cost the earth and neither of them seem to appreciate or take care of anything that's expensive to replace (seriously, they've gone through 20+ ipods between them in the last 5 years!).
Any ideas what we can do to make these weekends more pleasant?
Any tips how I can reduce my stress about it - I should be looking forward to the weekend after working full time all week, not dreading every second one
FYI - I have experience working with people with disabilities, so the extra challenges that represents with my eldest stepson is not an issue here.