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    Default Kinder teacher wants my son to be withdrawn from Kinder

    Just wanted to give you some hugs. I don't know much about this stuff but I feel very sad for your ds.

    Good luck

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    Quote Originally Posted by DQ View Post
    I'm shocked!!! Can they do that?

    Aren't they obliged to "get" an aide???

    I'm sorry how stressful for you when your DS loves to go and is comfortable going

    All the best
    No they're not. They would be obliged if it were 4 year old kinder. An aide simply wouldn't be funded for 3 year old kinder. Sad but true.

    OP - Doesn't sound like the safest environment to me.. to be honest I really don't know if I'd want my child somewhere they weren't welcome.. whether they should be or not is irrelevant.. I just couldn't send my child to an unwelcoming environment


    Are there any other 3 year old kinders he can go to?

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    RAAAAAAAAAGE! I'm so angry for you! And for your DS! She clearly thinks that if she pressures you enough you will take him out and she can't get done for discrimination.
    Sorry but too bad. She needs to 'man up' and recognise that EVERY child has the right to an education.

    And I'm sorry but what the eff do three year olds have access to thumb tacks for anyway?! Kids are still eating glue in early primary school let alone in kindy. That makes me a bit leary in the first place, sounds like she's not exactly being vigilant even with the kids who don't need as much attention.

    I don't have any suggestions, just wanted to offer some . I'd be getting fired up the next time and asking if she's aware that she's discriminating.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Witchypoo View Post
    DS1 is 3 and has just been diagnosed with high-functioning Autism. He started 3-year-old Kinder last week. He had his 2nd session today. We have been thrilled that he is excited about going and hasn't cried at all about being separated from us. Today when I went to collect him his teacher pulled me aside and told me that he was taking up a lot of their attention and that they didn't have the time to spend on him that he demanded. He wasn't being disruptive but he was mouthing things. He put a paintbrush, textas and thumbtacks in his mouth (why they would have thumbtacks out with 3-year-olds, I don't know). She started saying that I should look into Irabina etc and was basically trying to get me to withdraw him. Does anyone know what my rights are in this situation? There is no funding for aides or field officers for 3-year-old kinder, so that is not an option. I feel like it was only his 2nd class and she was quite rude to me. DS1 loves going.
    In our three yo kinder the kids did have activities with thumbtacks....the thing with 3 yo kinder is that its not just three year olds but also 4 year olds instead so they all do have varying abilitities and need to be catered to. That being said tho, those activities should be supervised so they kids would be safe in exploring the activity.

    I am not sure about 3 yo kinder but when my DS was in 4 yo kinder they had a fully funded intergration aide for one of the kiddies. I remember that the parent had to do all the chasing up about it tho and get the information to the kinder as they didnt have all the details about the childs diagnosis, etc. Once they had all the stuff from the parents, there were then formally able to have an aide present.

    Not sure where in Vic you are but if it is a council run centre, contact the council ASAP and speak with them about it. They should be able to help you with applying for an aide for your DS.

    The only other thing I can suggest in teh meantime, is if the kinder teacher isnt being helpful is can you be a parent helper to assist before the aide is introduced? Not sure if that is feasible for you.

    Or is it possible to find another kinder that is more accepting and willing to work with you?

    that this has happened and I do hope you find a solution soon.

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    It might be worth contacting the Association for Children with Disability - they are an Australia wide organisation with offices in every state. Here is Tas they employ advocates to work (free of charge) with families in this sort of situation. An advocate will know your child's rights, they can provide you with advice and if you wanted them to they would attend any meetings you have with the kinder/school/day care etc.

    Goodluck

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    Im from western Melbourne and I took my son to Daycare rather then Kinda for these reasons... Daycare just seemed more able to provide and cater to my autistic son.

    I'm sorry your going through this, and it's unfortunate to say it won't be the last battle you will have to fight on behalf of your beautiful child!

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    Default Kinder teacher wants my son to be withdrawn from Kinder

    That's just terrible!

    The teacher is definitely out of line! I would notify the director/whoever is in charge.

    It's great your LO is enjoying it, but if you do decide to look into other options there are great early intervention places in VIC. (I've heard great things about Noah's ark)

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    Default Kinder teacher wants my son to be withdrawn from Kinder

    If it's Council run they would have to have a Social Justice or Inclusive Disability Policy that encompasses all of their services. Council management would very well know that you cannot exclude someone from a public service because of a disability (pool, library rhyme time, sporting grounds, kinder etc) A whole heap of legal hurt would come down on their heads if they did. Obviously, this teacher does not know this.

    Contact the most senior management person you can to assist you as a matter of urgency. A city councillor?

    While an aide might not be funded for 3+ kinder, what terrific PR for the council if they did. Ask. The alternative is extremely bad publicity and the involvement of Disability Australia and other state and federal agencies that oversee equitable inclusion for people with disabilities.

    I'm not suggesting that you use this request to withdraw your child as an excuse to ask for extra, but you should see it as an opportunity to insist that he be given whatever help he needs to fully access his kinder programme in an equitable fashion.

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    Default Re: Kinder teacher wants my son to be withdrawn from Kinder

    Hi op,

    Has your FaHCSIA funding come through yet? Have you been allocated a case worker? If you do, I would call your case worker to ask how to get an aid to help your son at kindy. Perhaps call Autism Victoria for help?

    My Autistic son is the same age and I just enrolled him into our local special needs kindy as well as going to daycare for one day a week but fortunately our daycare is very supportive of my son's special needs.

    Big hugs for you op as I know how difficult it can be to advocate for our children. Feel free to pm me if you like.

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    I was threatened with expulsion with ds when he was in day care due to his behaviour.

    Hes school aged not, and an absolute nightmare at school, but pretty good at home. It's very stressful trying to parent him.

    He has a very high iq (145 on Wisc test), which makes him even more hard work.

    Good luck. I feel for u.

    Is there a kinder near by that specialise in difficult kids?


 

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