I'm big on manners because that's how I was raised and its one of the bits of my childhood I agree with so I continue it. I love to hear good manners, esecially from kids. (I admit I cringe when I hear, 'What?' instead of pardon.).
But I think a good point this thread has raised is that manners are very much a cultural construct. Different cultures have a different idea of what constitutes 'good manners'. So other cultures may not see please and thank you as part of 'good manners'. Its not that manners aren't important to them, its just they have a different way of expressing them.
I find that really interesting. I suspect studying the way different societies express manners would be fascinating.
I'm thinking most, if not all languages would have a translation for please and thank you. I've traveled to many countries and always made sure I knew how to say please and thank you when going to a different country.
What about the Scandinavian countries?
Something to consider, some cultures consider eye contact from children rude and defiant. Yet generally lack of in our culture is seen as rude
As far as I'm aware, only Icelandic doesn't have a translation for please. Sadly, I never made it there, one of the only regrets I have.
Last edited by BigRedV; 15-02-2013 at 17:29.
When kids are older I think it's important to teach them to hold doors open for other people, wait for people to exit public transport before getting on, and offering seats to eldery/pregnant people.
I find it so rude when people don't do this!
My parents are very relaxed and a bit hippyish and they didn't think they needed to teach us manners so long as we were generally nice. This was embarrasing for me - when I was little I would be at a friend's house and do something and their mum would have to be the one to tell me "we don't ask people about money" or "use the entree cutlery first" or whatever. I think it is in children's interests for parents to be quite strict about manners as it will save your children this kind of embarrassment.
It's almost like talking to adults is beneath her haha! She only has time for kids
ETA - oops didn't even respond to the question asked in this thread lol!
Waiting until its your turn to speak (this is HUGE for DD1 at the moment)
Last edited by GirlyWirly; 15-02-2013 at 18:21.
I think a lot of people these days see mr and mrs as out dated. I hate mrs, (it makes me feel old lol) I still teach my children to use it though, because I just don't think you can jump to a first name basis with everyone, at least I certainly don't.
DD's friends I tell I really prefer if you call me by my name, like I would an adult, I guess I've always thought others who don't want to be called "mrs" would do the same, I find a lot of people my age (30) don't mind the mrs.
with a lot of foreign languages you have a formal and informal way of saying things so while they may not use please and thank you as much as in English there certainly is a well mannered way of speaking to people.
Offering help to those who need it...like an old lady struggling with her groceries.
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