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    Default Which manners are most important to teach your children?

    If people don't want to use their manners with me when requesting something, that's fine. I just won't give them what they're asking for.

    Just as they can choose to say, "can you get me some water?" Without a please, I can choose to not get them a damn thing until they ask me in a more polite way.

    I honestly don't really care if anyone thinks that's horrible. It's how it works with me. They will either learn to use their manners around me or they will not get what they're after. Simple.

    Eta: I guess you also have to look at this from coming from a woman who was brought up by a downtrodden doormat of a mother. She had orders barked at her and had to comply.

    I am determined to not let myself be treated similarly. If anyone, adult or child, starts treating me like a slave then they won't get a good response.

    I also don't go around telling random kids what to do. Lol. I meant more nieces, nephews, etc. When they are, "can you get me a drink?" I pause and wait until they add please. I don't let go of the cup until they say thank you either. These are children I know. I would behave similarly with any children in my care... But it's not like ill interrupt your family in the shops and tell them how to behave. Lol.
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    Default Which manners are most important to teach your children?

    Thinking about it now we are big on manners and etiquette.
    DD's teacher always raves about her excellent manners.

    Although I don't really 'teach' my kids the basics- please/thank you/sorry/bless you etc. they just pick it up on their own, if your using these yourself.
    DS who is 2 in a few days uses all these the newest after someone says thanks he says "you welcome or no worries" (we have no idea where the no worries has come from

    Table manners/gratitude/sharing are different we tell/teach them what we expect.

    I never tell other children to say please/thank you/chew with your mouth closed etc. I feel it's not my place to say these things to other people's kids.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SassyMummy View Post
    If people don't want to use their manners with me when requesting something, that's fine. I just won't give them what they're asking for.

    Just as they can choose to say, "can you get me some water?" Without a please, I can choose to not get them a damn thing until they ask me in a more polite way.

    I honestly don't really care if anyone thinks that's horrible. It's how it works with me. They will either learn to use their manners around me or they will not get what they're after. Simple.
    I find this rude.

    Different strokes I guess.

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    Default Which manners are most important to teach your children?

    Yeah, please is the simple way to do it but it doesn't matter if they say something to the same effect.

    It's most commonly little kids though who will say, "can you get me a drink?" Or even just, "I want a drink," (to which i will say something like, "oh, that's nice... i want a new dress..." or if its DD i will say, "...and i want a child with better manners but it seems neither of us are getting hat we want at the moment...") or "give me a drink."

    DP often doesn't say it as I hand him dinner. So that's when I start with, "Thank you Stacey, I really appreciate you making dinner for me." A bit dramatic but trying to get the point across to him... His family aren't big on manners at all.

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    My son often gives kisses or hugs to thank people, or says 'yum' and smiles at the person who gave it to him.

    and yes, we are foreign.[/QUOTE]

    See, I think that is lovely.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SassyMummy View Post
    I also don't go around telling random kids what to do. Lol. I meant more nieces, nephews, etc. When they are, "can you get me a drink?" I pause and wait until they add please. I don't let go of the cup until they say thank you either. These are children I know. I would behave similarly with any children in my care... But it's not like ill interrupt your family in the shops and tell them how to behave. Lol.
    I am the same, I see nothing 'demanding' about wanting to be asked for something politely.

    My niece and nephew may not have to use manners to get what they want in their house, but if they are in my home I will prompt them to say please and thank you. I am not prepared to be walked all over as they see fit to do to their mother, nor am I at their beck and call.

    I really don't know anyone in real life who would think it's unreasonable to expect please and thank you to be used

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    I have to say, I really dislike it when people call me "mrs". I much prefer little kids call me by my first name. I think I am trying to pretend that I am still young..

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    I agree with Sassy, no way no how are my kids getting anything from me unless they say please & thanks. "I want a drink" is ALWAYS corrected into 'Can I have a drink please?" and the drink does not leave my hand until Kid says 'Thanks"

    I'm not terribly huge on "manners" as such tho, burps and farts are sources of great amusement in our house. Leaving the table... well I'm not strict but they know they can't walk on scraps on the floor, or rub sticky hands on furniture etc. And they get sent back to the table if dinner is not finished. They are told not to interrupt and finish what is in their mouth before they speak. They will get it.

    I am strict on being respectful in what they say & do, being kind to others, sharing and playing nicely, being considerate of feelings etc. I guess what might be more 'values' than 'manners' but I was never sent to finishing school so

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    Default Which manners are most important to teach your children?

    Quote Originally Posted by Gothel View Post
    I agree with Sassy, no way no how are my kids getting anything from me unless they say please & thanks. "I want a drink" is ALWAYS corrected into 'Can I have a drink please?" and the drink does not leave my hand until Kid says 'Thanks"

    I'm not terribly huge on "manners" as such tho, burps and farts are sources of great amusement in our house. Leaving the table... well I'm not strict but they know they can't walk on scraps on the floor, or rub sticky hands on furniture etc. And they get sent back to the table if dinner is not finished. They are told not to interrupt and finish what is in their mouth before they speak. They will get it.

    I am strict on being respectful in what they say & do, being kind to others, sharing and playing nicely, being considerate of feelings etc. I guess what might be more 'values' than 'manners' but I was never sent to finishing school so
    I agree with you 100%

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    Default Which manners are most important to teach your children?

    I expect please & thank you & no being silly rude.

    I expect belongings to be cared for, I expect gratefulness for say a gift outing.

    I expect body discretion, shut door for shower/toilet/getting changed. Respect others privacy.

    I would expect and request a please/thank you from another child other than my own.

    It may feel like as a parent your making a stand against society norms but the reality is older kids can be bratty/demanding & self righteous enough without being told general manners are not necessary.


 

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