Me too. I agree with that list too. May take a while to get ds. there as df isn't so good with them. Also, take shoes off before entering a home. Our own or someone elses. I hate hate hate shoes inside! Even when I'm told its ok, I still remove them, I know my socks are clean im usually bare foot at home and only wear them when out, and change them each time. I remember there was a thread about this a while back.
I do understand that removing shoes isn't every ones thing, and don't say anything.... Though I have a regular visitor who has a brand new house and made it clear shoes off inside...yet always wears them inside at our house which does my head in.
Eta: some of our flooring (lounge carpet especially) is in severe need of replacing (not till ds is older though), but I still cringe inside when I see shoes on it... I just imagine how much dirt I'm going to be vacuming up later :/
Last edited by shadowangel0205; 16-02-2013 at 08:38.
I couldn't be bothered writing my list tbh, but I am big on manners. Unfortunately though, 10 years on, and my Aspie child STILL needs to be prompted to say hello when someone says hello to him. And now the hardest thing is that my other 2 children, who naturally model their behaviour off their big brother, also lack in some social behaviours. They are learning quite quickly though and are already much more 'socially appropriate' than their older brother is.
So I just wanted to point out that you shouldn't be too quick to judge a child and their parents due to a lack of manners or social skills, there may be a reason behind it and you never know how very hard the parents actually might work on this.
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Sorry I have been misinterpreted, maybe by responding late and not being clear. I meant aside from shyness. I teach 4-5 year olds and have a teaching philosophy based on children's well being and emotional security being at the forefront of my teaching program, and this always comes before academics. I am in no way insensitive to children's well being and would be hurt at the thought I could ever be otherwise. I am the soft teacher!
i meant children who know the people they are interacting with. I strongly believe that social conventions need to be modeled and sometimes prompted but not when a child is Shy, as I said in my original post.
I certainly don't hate little people, the thought is quiet frankly, very insulting.
I am not going to bang on about the situations I was referring to because I'll probably get misinterpreted again but didn't want to cause any offense to anyone and I am disappointed in myself for not being clear as my core values have been queried.
You did use the word hate which jumped right out at me as a mum with a child who doesn't always speak to people when spoken to. I just wanted to reflect that back to you, I didn't mean to offend you.
And you'd only said you understood that shyness can Be a factor, not that shyness isn't what you were talking about. And I'm probably a bit sensitive in defence of my son, he's such a good kid, he's just a bit shy with adults, and so many times as well people dismiss that, I tell people just give him a minute he's a bit shy and they say "oh he's not shy" (including people who've literally just met him!) - because he interacts with children but not adults, he basically gets accused of putting it on to adults.
But he'll even be a bit shy with grandma who he loves.
It's also funny he talks about people really fondly after they leave, when he never actually spoke to them while they were here. So he likes people, just won't talk to them. It's really frustrating. But at least he interacts fine with other children.
So sorry I took your comment the wrong way.
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