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    Default Help with 3.5yr old, throwing in anger

    When ds gets upset, especially if I tell him 'no' for something he can't do or have, he will either throw the nearest object or YELL. ( or sometimes hit me)
    I just don't know what to say or do anymore.

    Is it normal?? It just started recently.


    His speech is excellent by the way.
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    Default Help with 3.5yr old, throwing in anger

    What do I do? I cry lol

    In my experience nearly everything is *normal* behaviour for a 3 year old. They are still finding themselves and are wanting to become very independent so can get easily frustrated. But this doesn't mean the behaviour should be tolerated. It's so hard I know and very difficult to be treated this way by a tiny person you love so much!

    What do you do when DS throws, yells, hits? We have "quiet time" in a room and when they have calmed down and are ready to apologise they can come back out. We talk about why what they did is wrong and then we have a kiss and cuddle.

    They will do nearly Bything to avoid a quiet time so it does work for us

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    My first response usually is to get angry myself. But I find that just giving him a hug, telling him to calm down and everything will be ok (what's wrong and not to yell/throw toys etc). He usually cries and cuddles me/calms down.

    What strategies can I teach him to use instead of throwing/yelling?

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    I use the naughty chair look up super nanny's technique on the internet works a treat and then after I make her pick up the object she thru and tell her it is unacceptable behavior

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    My 3.5 DD has started growling like the dog when she gets frustrated - it makes me laugh which doesn't help the situation

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    Naughty corner no longer works for us, and our new thing is to hit or throw as well.

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    This thread is almost 4 months old and it's amazing how much he has changed. He might still throw, hit me, but it's no where as bad.
    Now he will say "I don't like you".
    Lol, I think I prefer that!!

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