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    Default "Your soft place to fall"

    Do you think your significant other MUST be:

    A). Your "soft place to fall" as Dr Phil says. Ie, a source of emotional support, someone who gives you a hug when you're having a crappy day, listens to you moan about your boss or lets you cry and shows empathy when you're going through something really tough.

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    B) you can't expect one person to be everything in your life and provide you with all your emotional needs. If everything else is good a lack of emotional support is not a dealbreaker. You should rely on friends or family to provide that instead.

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    A) for sure

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    Default "Your soft place to fall"

    I'd love to say A. But the reality is that our partners are human too.

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    DF is everything I need in life. My best friend and my family, so definitely A.

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    B.

    I wouldn't say my husband is emotionally unsupportive, but I have other people I can fall back on as well. My husband is not interested in hearing some of my venting
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    For me B) .....i get the significant part of emotional support from a few close friends and mum...i get some from dh but he doesn't understand the need for biatching, i mean i get some that is enuf for me. I expect my partner to be a provider first. I dont need much emotional support off him.

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    Default "Your soft place to fall"

    For us it is A. There's no one else I feel I can really talk to. I know she feels the same way :-)

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    Hard to say. My DP is an inwards emotion person...he doesnt do sympathy well at all. He'll listen to all my problems and complaints but is more likely to tell me to toughen up than give me soft advice. But that is just who he is......I know he cares because if someone hurts me or treats me bad he is right there stepping in to 'defend my honor' so Im happy with that.
    He knows when Im upset though and need a cuddle and will give me one...for about 3 seconds then he turns it into a tickle fight so I am forced to laugh and smile. Thats his way of being my 'soft place to fall'.

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    My DH is incredibly supportive and a good listener, but he likes to solve problems whereas often I just need to vent and I don't want someone telling me I can solve it if I do x,y or z. He can be very black and white. I also don't want him knowing all my day to day stuff as it gets boring.

    I have wonderful friends and my gorgeous sister as well. I have plenty of support.


 

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