Either way all the best!
Both my kids are baptized catholic and I'm not. DH was raised catholic but is not active/practising. For me, baptizing my children was not so much about giving them a religion but about welcoming them into our community. A bit like a public affirmation of our love for this new addition to our family.
DS was baptized in the round chapel of DH's old school in a private ceremony and DD, again in a private ceremony in the church we were married in.
Perhaps if your partner sees baptism as the traditional way to do this, maybe a naming day ceremony will be a good compromise.
My DH isn't religious. His parents were baptised but nothing more. They don't really know why they never baptised my DH and his brother but wish they did. I've been baptised and all the other hooha that comes with going to a catholic school. My family is Italian and we do it as a family tradition. To some that may sound strange and you could argue both sides. We are baptising our DD.
Each to their own but I do think both of you should agree to it. It shouldn't be a one sided decision.
In my view dh and I are catholic and so our boys were baptised. The god parents are also catholic. If the boys wish to take a different path when older so be it but ds1 is 5 and he is very interested and enthused with it all so far which is great. To me it would be awkward if dh and I had different religious views and our child would not be baptised to a religion I wasn't part of or vise versa.
I find it curious when parents say they will let their children "decide for themselves". "Deciding" on a faith or religion is not like choosing which car to buy from a range of models once you're old enough to do so. I acknowledge that in some people's lives they do make choices to adopt a religion for themselves or to change religions but I think these situations are relatively rare. I think it's very unlikely that a child who has been brought up without any faith would suddenly decide for themselves later in life to adopt one. I don't really understand your point of view. If it's a meaningless ceremony from your perspective but it's important to the father - why are you so opposed to it?
Because, as your last line said, it is MEANINGLESS.
Even the father is not an abiding Christian.
Thanks for your input, but there are plenty of people in this world who have been educated about the different sorts of religions out there and they've chosen their views accordingly. Myself, I walked from a church and have my own view also.
In today's world, it is not as rare as you are thinking it is.
My children will have the same last name, and be raised the same way, and this means no 'commitment' to a religion until they are old enough to learn about them and choose. A way of life and living is more important to me then a religious identification.
We will bring our kids up in our religion, but I would never baptize them without it being their own decision. At the end of the day the bible's instruction is "BELIEVE and be baptized", in that order. A baby cannot believe, therefore I believe infant baptism is void of any meaning.
Baptism is the parents bringing their child into Gods family and speaking on their behalf. Once the child is older, they undertake their confirmation- they are old enough to 'confirm' that they are part of God's family.
Op I reckon this one is a can of worms for you.
Does your Dp expect to be married in a church as well? If and when that time comes, will you compromise on that? Just a thought.
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