I'm fat & I hate myself for it

[jag5000]

I had never seen this thread before now De!

god I wish you lived here, or I lived there.. I have been where you are (and how you seem to be feeling) so much! I am really down on myself right now too.. put on a heap of weight - we have so much in common

bugger everyone else.. when I come to Perth I'm paying for a sitter for all our kids (with your approval of course) and we are going to doll ourselves up like the spunkrats we are (well, I am on the inside anyway! ) and go out for a good old fashioned girls night and go nuts!



I always thought there was a skinny beautiful person inside me wanting to get out.. but she never showed up . Possibly just as well, 'cos if I was, I'd be walking around in a bikini 24/7 and be totally up myself!

[Mum2Bug]

LOL Jo will happily come out with you. And im sure i can convince the family to have Bug one extra night that week so we can get dolled up and have a girls night.

[wocket]

If it's something you've always had perhaps it could be PCOS? I had a similar experience growing up and nothing I tried helped with the weight/depression. I was eventually diagnosed with PCOS.

Two thing that have always helped me immensely have been to get out of the house for just 1 hour a day, alone if you can and go for a walk to nowhere in particular. It doesn’t have to be a fast walk, just wander around, look at things, think random thoughts, get caught up in the world around you. How does that leaf smell? What does that cloud look like?

The other is swimming. if you can go swimming every second day, or even just once a week where you can do gentle laps, perhaps breaststroke, you'll find yourself caught up in the rhythm of it, almost like meditation.

PM me if you want to buddy.

[ciehann]

Unfortunately as a single parent a gym is out of financial reach for me. Im hoping to get christmas out of the way and then save to buy a couple of pieces of equipment for using at home.

And even if i had the money for the gym, Bug refuses to go into a creche.

Thank you everyone. I guess this is one of the reasons I love that I can talk about how i feel on BH when i cant in RL

a lot of places hire gym equiptment on a rent to buy plan. might be cheaper than buying straight out? and places like big W/Kmart/target have some good pieces.

[oliverjay]

Well i haven't been on here for ages, was looking through the threads today and noticed this one was the one for me, only to realise it was actually posted by my son's aunty

I just wanna let you know Mum2Bug that i have dealt with the same thing through my life too!! when i was at school i got seriously teased and guys well they only dated me as a joke! since leaving school i have still ended up with the so called "men" in my life who have done the same thing as yours, cheated on me! when i met your brother i felt like i was given a new chance on life and although i have actually gained he still seemed to stick by me thru it, and even though we are seperated now i have decided that it would be in my best intrest and in oliver's as well that i have a revamp so to speak! so out went the old clothes and with a bit of hard work in came some new ones... i decided i wasn't going to look at the same old me that i thought really didn't have much going for her and decided my life would change for the better! so i am now seeing a dietician, i went to the doctors and got a referal to see a public one so being on the pension it costs me nothing and i have constant support with everything. if you feel as though you wanna talk just ring, you have my number and i will listen!

[ciehann]

one thing that helps me get through feeling like this myself (i gained 20kg while preg) i have realised that someone, somewhere would pay to see you naked. it takes all sorts and you are exactly someones "sort" no matter what you look like. its whats on the inside no money could ever buy.