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    Default Re: Could I please get a little advice - Stressed :(

    Just my 5c worth, it sounds strange to me that this nurse is pushing for a tonsillectomy. When dd1 was getting chronic ear & throat infections, we saw a specialist to see about having then out. His advice was basically "yes it may well help her but she can cope without having them out, it's totally up to you how we proceed". . And you said that he was much better in the last year than in the past except for this last bout? (or did I misunderstand?)
    I would be concerned that you are bring pushed into an op?

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    Default Could I please get a little advice - Stressed :(

    Not read all the replies but what you need to do is speak to the PACS team at your local hospital they will organize to get you guys to the hospital he needs to be at fit the surgery and organize you somewhere to stay close to the hospital during the time you need to be there

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    Default Could I please get a little advice - Stressed :(

    Also get a referral to public hospital ent sure you may wait longer but only if its not of any urgency if its urgent it would be done ASAP

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    Default Could I please get a little advice - Stressed :(

    Sorry, haven't read all the replies. Would it be possible to rejoin your private health insurer and just wait out the waiting period? It may work out better financially?

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    You could speak to your phi. I found out recently that if you cancel and then ask to have it reinstated within 6 months they sometimes let you (you have to repay the premiums you haven't paid but otherwise no waiting period). Might be worth investigating?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ready To Run View Post
    Hi It's been a little while since I have been on here but I am really needing some advice on a really difficult situation for us. Just a little request in advance though: please no comments about us being bad parents, we already feel terrible. Thanks Our ds1 is scheduled to have his tonsils out in the first week of may this year. We were never really given a choice but the referral was just written and we were booked in to have it done privately. Its going to cost us about $3000.00 to have it done (That's the quotes we have been given by the receptionist). We don't have Private Health Insurance anymore - we cancelled it last year due to it becoming too expensive for us to afford. So apparently all of this cost is payable by us before the operation date. If it were only that - we would have a tight budget but it would be doable. But it's not. We need to be down there (it's a 1000km trip for us to the city) 4 days before for his appointment with the doctor and then a minimum of 10 days after the operation in case of bleeding. It's going to cost us a fortune for accommodation and fuel and our expenses for that amount of time. Then we have the problem that DH doesn't have enough holidays up as he took time off over Christmas (we couldn't even go anywhere because we couldn't afford it) and that time without pay will be the final nail in the coffin for us financially. The other problem we have is that the car needs some work done to it and new tyres before we go away so there's another $1500 we have to pull out of thin air There is 6 lots of wages to come in before then and to save the $3000.00 just for the operation means that we will be scraping but to save the rest of what we need is impossible. Also just to make things even "easier" for us - we have no family and our friends are about as financially crippled as we are, so nobody can help us out. So here is my problem in a nutshell. Our child needs an operation. We don't have enough money. We are supposed to be able to look after our kids but we can't even do this. We are a failure to our children because we can't provide for them. DH earns a reasonable wage but the cost of living is so high these days - we had to use the last of our savings to pay the power bill which was by the way $1250.00 for 3 months. We ran the air conditioners 24 hrs a day 7 days a week as it was so hot (over 45 most days and got to 50 it broke the records). Anyway I'm just looking for some advice - I'm so stressed out and DH is feeling really awful. What do we do?
    Where do you live first of all? Are you aware of the patient assisted travel scheme which pays for your trip down and so much for accommodation. Wa has it and I'm sure other states would also.

    I would personally go private if you are struggling even though you would be on a waiting list probably. How rude not to be asked whether or not you wanted public or private though.

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    Hi it sounds as if you might live in a remote part of oz. Is there any way all of us ladies put some money in a nominated bank account for you and your son. Depending on where your surgery might be someone could have you to stay bubhub people are supportive and we are united through our children. Definitely ring your local newspaper, good luck.

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    You are not a bad parent this is something that was taken out of your control and it is not your fault that it is a massive expense. I would still get the GP to get your son on a waiting list, if not local see if he could be squeezed in somewhere else. If can't be afforded at this point and he does have to go onto a waiting list, although he can feel awful from the infections and be an unwell little boy it is not a life threatening surgery and is elective it is not something they perform as an emergency generally so they cannot make you feel bad that is currently not your top priority. If the car needs to be fixed how will hubby get to work to earn more money to make the surgery a more possible outcome if the car dies.

    That nurse had no right to make you feel guilty that a dr had to come off holidays to see your son IT IS HIS JOB, he went to university to earn the big $$ and it is the nurses choice to work also. I work nightshift in a small rural hospital and boy do some surgeons and anaesthetists get irate when you call at 2am and become rude, forget to remember if they want to keep a job then they can come and check on their patients and listen to the rambling of a stressed nurse or family member as to how sick they are. I would lose my job if I spoke to a patient or family member and told them that the dr had better things to be doing then spending time with them.

    Chin up and take care, hope something can be done your DS and your family. Don't let anyone speak to you that way or treat you that way just because they are a person in authority they don't have the right to.

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    Thankyou to everyone for your replies & kind words - we really appreciate it I have booked DS1 an appointment with the RFDS Doctor when they come out in 2 weeks for the clinic. DH & I have decided that we will need to go public, there is no other possible way we can do it - so thankyou everyone for suggesting that option. He is not an urgent case & like I said this nurse is the one pushing for it. He even told another family to take their 8 year old daughter home (she was in pain & had high temps) because he wouldn't see her because it was fathers day & he was spending it with his wife & son Then the parents had her back up there in a few hours - she had to be flown out with an appendicitis. Thankfully we have just heard he will be leaving soon - CAN'T WAIT!!! I am hoping though by going for the public option that he may continue to grow out of it. I was never really for this surgery as I didn't think he was bad enough to even have them out. But we will get him booked in & see how he goes. I think it's terrible that a child is told to have an operation because he is an inconvenience. I will keep you all updated

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    Hi Ready to Run,
    My DP is a remote area nurse and he has suggested that when you see the Doctor, get him to put a management plan in place. Basically, the Doctor should write in your child's notes what is to be done/given when your child presents to the clinic with tonsillitis. It is not an official document but gives the nurse an outline of what to do for your child. If the nurse refuses, you have the Doctor's plan to refer to, giving you control in what treatment you would like for your child.
    I know what it is like to live remote and sometimes it is not easy when you have a young family but l wouldn't haven't changed it.

    Callian


 

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