Hi It's been a little while since I have been on here but I am really needing some advice on a really difficult situation for us. Just a little request in advance though: please no comments about us being bad parents, we already feel terrible. Thanks Our ds1 is scheduled to have his tonsils out in the first week of may this year. We were never really given a choice but the referral was just written and we were booked in to have it done privately. Its going to cost us about $3000.00 to have it done (That's the quotes we have been given by the receptionist). We don't have Private Health Insurance anymore - we cancelled it last year due to it becoming too expensive for us to afford. So apparently all of this cost is payable by us before the operation date. If it were only that - we would have a tight budget but it would be doable. But it's not. We need to be down there (it's a 1000km trip for us to the city) 4 days before for his appointment with the doctor and then a minimum of 10 days after the operation in case of bleeding. It's going to cost us a fortune for accommodation and fuel and our expenses for that amount of time. Then we have the problem that DH doesn't have enough holidays up as he took time off over Christmas (we couldn't even go anywhere because we couldn't afford it) and that time without pay will be the final nail in the coffin for us financially. The other problem we have is that the car needs some work done to it and new tyres before we go away so there's another $1500 we have to pull out of thin air There is 6 lots of wages to come in before then and to save the $3000.00 just for the operation means that we will be scraping but to save the rest of what we need is impossible. Also just to make things even "easier" for us - we have no family and our friends are about as financially crippled as we are, so nobody can help us out. So here is my problem in a nutshell. Our child needs an operation. We don't have enough money. We are supposed to be able to look after our kids but we can't even do this. We are a failure to our children because we can't provide for them. DH earns a reasonable wage but the cost of living is so high these days - we had to use the last of our savings to pay the power bill which was by the way $1250.00 for 3 months. We ran the air conditioners 24 hrs a day 7 days a week as it was so hot (over 45 most days and got to 50 it broke the records). Anyway I'm just looking for some advice - I'm so stressed out and DH is feeling really awful. What do we do?