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    Default Privacy in a relationship??

    I don't think DH and I have any privacy lol We know our Facebook passwords, Instagram, emails, phone passwords, everything. And it's not because we *have* to have each others passwords to check up on each other. We've just openly shared them. If I don't have my mobile, I'll jump on his mobile and look at his Facebook or Instagram. We were at the hospital last night with DS & DH took him for a walk outside. I had to wait in the waiting room incase the doctor called us through & he just gave me his mobile to keep myself entertained..
    We don't really have anything to hide I guess.. We're very close & open with each other, so it's the norm for us.

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    Default Re: Privacy in a relationship??

    I don't know my dh's pin or password to his laptop, nor does he know mine. It has only bothered me once- when my brother os and feeling down, my laptop was broken, and I was trying to Skype him. I wouldn't have a clue what any of his passwords were for anything! I could access his fb email, eBay, etc via his tablet, and vice versa, but have never felt the need to, I don't think he is hiding anything!

    Dh works in IT, part of his job involves designing and maintaining the security systems for a large multinational company. I think for him, this is not a privacy thing, but an occupational hazard. I understand his quirks, I married him quirky!

    It would be very different story if I thought he was hiding something though.

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    Default Privacy in a relationship??

    I'd feel quite violated if hubby looked at my phone/Facebook/emails/etc without me knowing. Much like he would feel the same way if I did it to him. It's not because we have something to hide, but more because for one of us to do it behind the others back it insinuates that we don't trust the other person.

    However, he uses my computer if its on, he uses my iPad more than I do which has my Facebook and emails synched as well as iMessages too. His phone is laying around as is mine, sometimes I play games on his phone, he plays games on my phone. Neither of us actively try to hide anything, its all out in the open. We just respect each others privacy. I won't open a message without asking him first etc.

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    Default Privacy in a relationship??

    I know all of DF's passwords. Internet banking, bank card, FB, etc. he's had the opportunity to know mine but... Well he can't even remember his own phone number so yeah.

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    We don't keep any secrets, nothing to hide..hide nothing. I have trust issues because of ex who cheated and constantly chatted to other girls online, not saying my boyfriend now would do that, but yeah...

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    I don't think privacy is the right word. Respect is more fitting.

    I know his PIN and his pass code to his phone, passwords to all his computers etc etc. Im not sure if he knows mine or not but if he asked I wouldn't care.

    If he hacked into any of them though I'd be very disappointed in him, in that he didn't have enough respect for me and our relationship to ask me honestly.

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    My partner and I know passwords to each others everything. Bank accounts Facebook, games, phones. But I have never gone snooping, our agreement is always open honesty and because we have both been hurt before we both uphold it. If I'm asked to send a message on his behalf from his phone I pay no attention to anything but the task at hand just because I respect his privacy. It is something I value A LOT in relationships.

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    Out of curiosity...

    What is the big deal with a partner looking at porn?

    I have noticed a trend among my straight friends, but not generalising by any means, that women seem to have issues with the idea of a partner looking at porn, going to strippers etc.

    I can understand being upset in the context of a sex addiction, spending money without talking to the other partner etc.

    In general, I just feel its no big deal.
    Harmless in most cases.
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    In relation to the actual topic.....

    My partner and I have full access to one another's accounts and passwords for anything.
    I don't feel the need to check up on her, nor she me.

    With no reason to distrust, I am happy for her to do as she pleases.
    It's not my job to give her permission for anything, and vice versa.

    I believe that if you already feel even a small lack of trust, that maybe something bigger is going on?

    Hope everything works out for you OP xo

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    I know some of my DH's password but would never use them to check his email/FB/phone etc unless he asks me obviously...

    Trust and privacy goes hand in hand to me. :-)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Purpz View Post
    What is the big deal with a partner looking at porn?

    I have noticed a trend among my straight friends, but not generalising by any means, that women seem to have issues with the idea of a partner looking at porn, going to strippers etc.
    I don't think I'd care much if my partner was to look at porn - unless it becomes obsessive. Going to the strippers is a different story to me...
    I wouldn't be in a relationship with someone who enjoys going to the strippers anyway, I found it so tacky and degrading. Just my personal opinion obviously.

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