Ok to give you some back ground, dh and I have been having troubles for quite some time now. A few times this year I have felt something was amiss and checked his Internet history, emails, phone and both times I have found p0rn. This latest time I found lots of it and was angry. He asked why I was angry and I told him. After 11+ years of him telling me he had no interest in it I was shocked and angry. He's angry that I checked up on him and has changed all of his access codes to everything. He says he's offended that I don't trust him(which I can understand). He also stated at the same time that he looked because he's lonely(we haven't been intimate in 6months +) and he also said he's suspected many times throughout our relationship that I have cheated on him but doesn't think I currently am(truth be told, even though I am not attracted to him and haven't been for a while, I still haven't even looked at another guy).
i agree I shouldn't have looked at his stuff, by in my defense, I always follow my gut feeling. I am so hurt by his reaction to what's happened and every time I see him on his phone or iPad I can't help but think that that's what he's looking at. For me, I feel that this is yet again another deal breaker added to a long pile of deal breakers in our relationship and that I really need to leave. We're currently living in the same house, but I've been living in the lounge room for a while now anyway, but I feel I need to make it permanent and move out.