Yes I think we need to have a sit down and talk everything through.
She has been living with and looking after other people for so long, that her idea of personal space is a lot different to mine.
DF wants her to come live with us so she can have a break from those that depend on and take from her (like adult SIL who still needs MIL to do her laundry etc etc), and actually start enjoying her retirement.
Nice in theory! I don't think he thought about what that might mean for us.
How does it all work? For instance, if we want friends over for a dinner party? Does MIL come to? Or do we banish her upstairs? Seems a little mean.
I've been thinking a roster might be good for us too, because I have a feeling DF is gonna get super lazy with two women in the house.
I just hope MIL doesn't try to fill her days with trying to look after and baby us, because that will frustrate the hell out of me!