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    Default MIL moving in... Tips?

    So, my overbearing, anal, clean freak, health nut, worry wart MIL is moving in with us.

    She's retired and we work from home so this should be veeeerry interesting!

    Do you have any tips/suggestions/warnings from your own experiences?

    A little background:
    Any little cough DF has, MIL tells him to run to the doctor, any little bout of eczema DS has should be "seen by a skin specialist", she's even said I should watch how much I feed DS because he's too fat (he's only breastfed and in 75th percentile for height and weight).
    Cups are picked up and cleaned before you're finished, and when DF and I were overseas on holiday, she used the emergency key to go to our house and clean (some may think that's sweet, I think it's a major invasion of privacy!).

    Any input would be much appreciated!

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    Default MIL moving in... Tips?

    Wow. Given just those few examples, I'm curious as to why you've agreed to her moving in? I couldn't do it.

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    Ah I love my mil and still couldn't live with her. Just be firm, set boundaries before she moves in and stick to them! Good luck

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    Default Re: MIL moving in... Tips?

    Don't do it!

    Seriously though, unless you have a very good relationship it is going to be difficult. There are going to be 2 people competing for your OH attention. You and your MIL. She will think she knows best because she raised him and toy will think you know best because you know him better now and in a more intimate way.

    My advice.. Grin and bear it. Smile and nod. Make sure that if you whinge to each other, that the other is aware it is just whinging. If you have major issues, talk about it properly.

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    Default MIL moving in... Tips?

    Oh god I'm so grateful for my mil.

    Good luck. I wish I could help but I can't. My nightmare is sharing our space with anyone, as much as I love my in laws and family, I can't imagine anything worse.

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    Build a granny flat out the back!?

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    Default MIL moving in... Tips?

    I love my mil too, but I'm a firm believer that two grown women can not live together.

    Mine is the same, has an opinion on everything I do and usually tells me I'm doing it wrong or treats me like I'm 18 (wish I was)!

    The granny flat idea above sounds like a good idea! Does she have to move in?

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    Default MIL moving in... Tips?

    Trust me, I've come up with every other living situation I could think of for her but for one reason or another they can't happen.

    DF jumped the gun in the first place by asking her to move in, he didn't think about it clearly and put the idea out there before talking it through with me.

    I've been looking for the biggest houses we can possibly afford (we're renting). We've been keeping an eye out for places with granny flats but they don't seem to come up very often, or are way out of budget.
    Also been looking for houses with 2 storeys, and a bedroom on the bottom floor so the whole upstairs space is ours, but they're surprisingly hard to find too.

    Lol, love how all the responses are "don't do it", believe me, I wouldn't if I didn't have to!

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    Default MIL moving in... Tips?

    What about 2 townhouses or units in the same complex??

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    I've lived with my inlaws and it I sypathise.

    Try and focus on the positives... a live in babysitter! Someone to share the cooking and cleaning maybe?

    All the best, I hope it turns out better than you are expecting. xx


 

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