I wonder if forums with men in them ..( Like a car one or something ) are as *****y and rude .. I think judgement or opinions end up all over the place when it comes to women discussing things ... A lot of threads end in chaos here .. Even the most simple questions get picked apart and attacked .. ( this can be rather entertaining though) ..
"of or concerning the use of judgement"
No problem there. But as a subheading:
"having or displaying an overly critical point of view"
So the negative connotation comes from the perception that someone is being overly critical. Although given that's in the eye of the beholder I'm not sure how useful it really is.
I'm really interested in this; how a positive word can end up implying such negative things. That using or imparting "judgement" is a good thing, but being "judgemental" is not.
I know I've strayed far from the OP, as you were
It put paid to anything I'd ever thought about women, and also my assumption that people sometimes get worked up on here because they speak about matters so close to their heart, ie their parenting, their children.
Nope, turns out a disagreement over apostrophes denoting omission is cause for abuse in some circles!
But yeah I thought I would give my 2cents worth on her original post and what I thought she meant including what I perceived from her last thread. I did feel it was abit harsh and if she felt picked on it wasn't her fault or her intention to cause trouble and those feelings should be recognised not dismissed (which is still happening in the thread, not by you)
As for judging/judgement/opinions. I think we all judge and an opinion can or doesn't have to be part of that judgement. Judgement isn't necessarily a good or bad thing either, you can judge a person, situation, event and form an opinion based on that judgement. You can judge in favour or against. Being judgmental is being excessively critical by definition, but is that a bad thing? This is how we function as society and decide what is or isn't acceptable.
If we don't judge and criticise anyone, ever, we would never know or bother to change a dangerous behaviour, it will almost become acceptable. No one will question themselves or think they are doing something wrong, as a society, we push it by being openly critical of things and putting it out there.
I would not think a smoking pregnant lady would ever receive so much of it by so many women, but Chrissie is out there and put herself there. I would never go up to a stranger and judge her or give her my opinion. But this is a topic she herself has put out there by going on tv and talking about it.
It's a can of worms.
bubhub is extremely tame compared to a lot of forums, I think if this place is seen as bullying and critical then some haven't ventured very far online (can't say I blame them lol).
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