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    Default Need to vent about eating habits. Im seriously at my whits end.

    I have a pretty switched on 2 year old.
    Who will not eat.. Anything.
    I'm not over reacting.
    I'm actually really worried about her.

    She has always had an excellent diet, she doesn't have sugar or fast food it's always been home cooked food and we have never had a problem.
    Now it's beyond a joke, I have no idea what do to.
    She is now on day 2 of Absolutely no food what so ever, it's been about a month of extreme minimal food, eg; at most I can get her to have Somedays are peas and a banana.
    As I said its only been in the past month this has started but the past 48 hours have been hell.

    She isn't sick, the weird thing is ill make her lunch etc and sit down with her to eat mine and she will scream and complain about the food and will get upset because she is hungry.
    Today I made us lamb shepherds pie with mashed cauliflower, she sat at the table with me and screamed that there was bugs in it.
    Last night for dinner I cooked chicken with veggies, she cried because the broccoli had fallen apart so wouldn't touch the rest, even after I separated the food in separate plates.
    This morning for breakfast she ran off and hid in her room because her porridge had blood in it (strawberries)
    All this food she has been fine with in the past and loves (well loved) to say introducing new types of food was a failure would be an understatement.

    She has been crying that her tummy is hungry but everything I offer she won't have, I have herd a few grumbles but when I ask if she wants something to eat she gets upset or runs off.
    I have tried giving her the choice and asking what she wants, she will choose it and be all happy about it then takes a bite and then she will spit it out saying its "Yuck" or something wrong with it then gets worked up over it.

    She has been waking up at night hungry but won't eat, she will get into such a state over texture, appearance etc but never really the taste.

    She has been to the doctor and I have asked the child care nurse but I'm told that if she is hungry then she will eat, then don't seem to understand me when I say that she will not eat! She has lost weight as well but isn't falling behind in the charts so they haven't been worried, just said she is evening out (she has always been higher on the charts for weight) I really hate those charts as obviously something isn't right
    She is hungry but she just won't eat!!

    Her behavior towards a lot of things has changed and it's really testing my patience, I'm sick of feeling p!ssed off about wasted food, feeling anger towards her then anger at myself for feeling that way.
    At first I thought it was a phase but its been going on a little longer than what her usual phases use to and it's starting to effect her.
    I'm ready to throw in the towel but I know I can't, I most likely sound like I'm having a breakdown over spilt milk but its all just getting the best of me, my husband doesn't understand as he isn't around for feeding times.
    I have no one to talk to and I just feel lost and alone in this journey.

    After the pie today I have just been crying nonstop and it's making it hard for me to enjoy my day with her, which is a horrible thing to say I know.

    I'm ready to go but some sustagen (sp?) just so I can try and get something into her but that isn't really solving the problem.. I'm just lost at how to move forward from this

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    Default Need to vent about eating habits. Im seriously at my whits end.

    I would go to your GP and request a mental health plan to a paed behavioural psychologist as they could work through some strategies with her and your family to get her eating. I have a little one who refuses to eat and we have established its a combination of oral aversion that she has always had and attention seeking behaviour. Huge hugs it's so difficult

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    I would get it checked out. DD used to be funny with food but she would say she didnt like it not that things were in it or wrong with it...

    I can imagine the stress you are going through and hope it gets sorted for you soon.

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    My first though is also oral aversion. Hugs...it must be soo difficult

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    How about her fluid intake? Could you maybe make her some fruit smoothies?

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    My ds ate literally nothing but vegemite sandwiches for 6 months. He is back to eating healthy well rounded diet but I was at my wits end worrying about how healthy he was living on only vegimite.

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    Default Need to vent about eating habits. Im seriously at my whits end.

    Big hugs! That sounds really distressing and I don't think you are over reacting at all! My DD is a great eater and if this happened to her I would be exactly the same. I agree with pp, get a referal from GP to see a pead ASAP. They will have a much better idea of what's going on. Hope she is ok and that you are too. Hugs again

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    I would ask your gp for a referral to a speech therapist, who specialise in food/oral aversion/processing.

    In the mean time you need to sort a fall back food. Normally this will be something plain that never changes eg yogurt, rice etc... an something she will always eat. it doesn't matter if she it for breakfast lunch and dinner.
    Now you still offer the other food first but if she can't cope with than offer the fall back food. If she is a sensory overload day/morning just go straight to the fall back.

    Think about when she eaten well, was there bright lights and lots of noise (eg tv other people) or was it quiet with natural light.
    Think about colours what colours will she not eat/eat
    What textures she likes/avoids

    When have a good/bad write down everything about in a notepad so you can see if there is a pattern.

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    Default Need to vent about eating habits. Im seriously at my whits end.

    Thank you all for your replies, I have tried her with the kids alphabet spaghetti, some nuggets from mcdonals in a desperate attempt, her birthday cake and it was the same thing.
    I really don't think it has anything to do with taste, as most kids would love that stuff but for her it just seems to be if its edible then she won't have any of it.
    She likes frozen peas for some unknown reason but if they are cooked and one of them is split it's a meltdown.
    However these past 48 hours she won't even touch peas.
    She will cover her eyes and will start crying, not winging but a frightened cry if that makes sense.

    She is the same with liquids.. She will only drink cold water if its room temp then she won't drink it.
    She has allergies to milk and egg so we do still have prescription formula for cooking and she will drink that but only very small amounts, I have tried her on some over the past few days but she will get upset over the cup or bottle it's in

    I'm trying really hard not to blow my top at meal time but its getting increasingly hard to stay calm.
    I just feel like its all getting the best of me, I have tried to force some in her mouth just so she can taste it but then I get upset.. Then she gets upset.. I'm really starting to dread meal times.

    I will look into oral aversions, I think I'll need to find a doctor who listens first as our current one just won't listen.
    It seems the moment you mention that your toddler won't eat they instantly show you the door with the parting words of "It's normal"

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    Ok call your local child and mental health clinic (not the nurse's) ask for a self referral to speechie and ot. Explain to them (crying is ok ) what's happening and how worried you are.
    I am walking out the door for the school pick up, feel free to pm and I will get back to you tonight.


 

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