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    I have a friend who I have known for 11 years. Her ds and my ds are 3 weeks apart and are 11. Recently I have noticed that when we go over ( maybe 6 months I have noticed it) that their patenting style is starting to differ from mine. They let him yell at the top of his voice, a lot. Like a lot. Even whilst outside in the pool and backyard. They seem unperturbed by this. He also swears a lot and calls people ie other kids not present names a lot. There are no consequences for this. The thing that annoys me the most is that he brings up sexual terms a lot. He seems to be more knowledgeable about this than my son, he has asked him, in front of us, do you know what x is? Like wtf?

    I am becoming more and more uncomfortable about being around them. He just makes me feel uncomfortable , his behavior is not acceptable and he gets no boundaries. If I say something she will not be happy, I know her.
    I just feel as though he is a bad influence on my son.

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    Keep your distance.... that's what I would do. If you know that talking to her will cause issues, then don't, especially if you think it will lead to arguments. I have been in a situation with children before, usually from both our kids arguing and carying on and then the parents argue then you lose a friend over it. Not worth it. That's mjust my opinion though...

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    It's hard because it's not just the difference in parenting styles - but the fact that your DS will pick up and mimic these behaviours too. I would talk to my DS if it were me......he is going to be exposed to more of this as he moves towards adolescence - so I would make my expectations of his behaviour really clear.

    And like a pp suggested - limit your exposure.


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    The sexual references would worry me in an 11 year old. Do the parents hear them/know about them? If not I would definitely bring it up. I would probably pull the kid up on it next time they said something worrisome in front of my little one, if his own parents are not going to.
    And yeah if it didn't get discussed/improve I would also distance myself.

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    Yes they hear it, they don't have a issue with it.


 

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