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    Default Depression/anxiety. Does your other half understand?

    I am feeling very misunderstood tonight. He doesn't seem to understand that I am 5000 times more sick of it than he is

    Sick of being a burden.

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    No one?

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    Mostly, yes. We've been together for 16 years and he knows me and understands me. I often do feel somewhat burdensome though and sometimes I know he feels frustrated but so do I. It's not like I chose this!

    I'm sorry you're having a crapper of a night. Do you want to talk about it?

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    Alot of the time my DP just doesnt get it. I dont have depression but I do have anxiety. Normally he is ok with it but he does have times where he is 'sick of it' and it annoying because (like you said) I am wayyy more sick of it than he is.

    Im sorry you are feeling misunderstood

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    Default Depression/anxiety. Does your other half understand?

    I completely understand... Hugs to you.

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    Default Depression/anxiety. Does your other half understand?

    He asks how I feel then I tell him and he gets frustrated with me. Like he can't stand it anymore. I hate being a burden, feel like I've been a drag for so Long now. I do try. Most of my friends don't ring anymore and I'm sick of not being able to say I'm great when people ask how I am.

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    Do you have a psychologist to talk to? I have found that with depression and anxiety, it helps to have someone just listen to you talk....you need to get it out of your head or it keeps circling. If you dont have one, do you think one would be helpful to you?

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    Default Depression/anxiety. Does your other half understand?

    No but I do need to go back to counseling. I honestly feel like I'm losing my mind. I've driven off. There's nowhere to drive to in this blardy tiny town. I'm so sick of crying.

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    Aw hun . I'm on the other side of the coin, my DH is depressed and I am the one that has to keep an even keel for him. I would never be angry or unhappy with his depression because it's something that I can really understand.

    But I have to admit that do I get frustrated and defeated that I can't help him in a lot of ways. I just want to make it all better for him, you know? And when I can't or there's nothing I can do to cheer him up I get so frustrated but it's not with him at all. It's more frustrated with myself because I feel like I've failed him.

    A lot of the time he thinks I'm frustrated with him when nothing could be further from the truth. I feel like I'm letting him down. I've tried very hard to make sure that he's aware of it but I think sometimes he has trouble understanding that I'm not frustrated with him at all. I'm frustrated with my lack of ability to make things better for him.

    I'm sorry you're having a hard time at the moment, depression is SUCH a pig of a thing to deal with .


 

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