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    Hi, I was just after some advice about my 20 month old ds. Latley whenever we go shopping he has been an absolute nightmare! He doesn't want to be in the trolley, he doesn't want to walk and hold my hand, he just wants to run. It's getting to the point where I don't want to leave the house. Does anyone have any tips for me on how to manage a active toddler in public??

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    I now do groceries online to avoid this. Or I go at night when DH is home. If I have to go for a few things in the day an she is with me I get her to help or I bribe her in the trolley with a lollypop and that keeps her quiet and happy and I wizz around.

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    We are beyond bribery......... Might look into online groceries.

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    Don't give up. Persist if you can manage it. Choose the time of day when he is most likely to behave (?at lunchtime when he'll happily eat food whilst in the pram/trolley) and go out. Don't let him keep you hostage at home. He needs to learn how to behave in public, so it is important to take him out & about when needed. But, having said that a full grocery shop might be hard, so maybe online shopping or doing it when you've got someone else to look after him is a good idea. But, don't think it has to be forever.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mim1 View Post
    Don't give up. Persist if you can manage it. Choose the time of day when he is most likely to behave (?at lunchtime when he'll happily eat food whilst in the pram/trolley) and go out. Don't let him keep you hostage at home. He needs to learn how to behave in public, so it is important to take him out & about when needed. But, having said that a full grocery shop might be hard, so maybe online shopping or doing it when you've got someone else to look after him is a good idea. But, don't think it has to be forever.
    I agree with this. Both my boys were active toddlers but they just had to learn. It's not fun having to do shopping with a child when all they want to do is run around but persistence is key. They eventually learn how to behave appropriately.

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    Do what you would do at home if he isn't listening. If he has a tantrum so be it. My son is happy to sit in the trolley or hold my hand. If he doesn't hold my hand he goes in the trolley, if he cries he cries.

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    Subbing our 17 month old is going through this and has been difficult at times when shopping and I'm running out of ideas

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    Persistence is the key. Kids eventually learn how to act in public. Don't give in to the meltdowns. DS does this when he doesn't get his way when we're out shopping. I usually let him stay firm & let him scream or cry it out. A lot of the time I'm not in the position to drop everything & leave.
    I try to keep him entertained & play it fair when we're out & about, but sometimes there's no other choice but to continue shopping etc.

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    Put some toddler apps on your phone or ipod. Works for me and my 21 month old DS. If you only give them the ipod while your out and not at home it's a fantastic distraction from tantrums.

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    Put some toddler apps on your phone or ipod. Works for me and my 21 month old DS. If you only give them the ipod while your out and not at home it's a fantastic distraction from tantrums.

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    You're going to get burned at the stake for admitting you're on of *those* mums that use technology as a distraction...
    I do the same thing, it works you can only try it OP

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